I have this friend who just recently got a boyfriend...he is all she talks about and i get so tired of hearin about him...i am so afraid that our friendship is going to end because of him, but she tells me that it's not goin to but for some reason i just dont' believe her...cause she i like head over heals for him...she has only known him for 1 month...i really get so tired of hearin bout him!! i am afraid if i tell her she will really mad at me!! so can u plz help me?
2007-03-05 15:00:37 · 11 answers · asked by sns_110989 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In short, hang on for a little while longer. The shine will wear off.
He is new (relitivly speaking) and exciteing (at least in her eyes). You kind of have to expect this sort of stuff from her. My biggest advise for you is to try to grin and be happy for your friend. After a while he will no longer be new and thus less of a conversation piece. It is times like this that show the true nature of a friendship.
Also, whenever a subject slips past her lips that isn't about him take full advantage of it. This might just help the time pass quicker.
2007-03-05 15:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by BoranJarami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you expect her not to have a boyfriend because of your friendship? If it's genuinely getting boring for you that all you're talking about is that guy, then this is what you do:
Every time she brings him up, or says something, acknowledge what she said (don't just ignore it!), put in a nice comment if it's appropriate, smile, and then change the conversation... She will gradually get the idea that you're getting bored of talking about some guy, and at the same time you haven't been rude or un-caring.
But try to be udnerstanding...
Good luck!
2007-03-05 23:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Hi, how are ya? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a boyfriend? Didn't hear one mentioned, so it would be easy to assume jealousy or perhaps you're just concerned about competing for your friends attention. I understand these feelings, but if you want her to remain your friend, be happy for her even it kills you. Once the newness of the relationship wears off, she will be needing you for all the messed up stuff he may be doing in the future. Besides, if he has friends, you may find a love interest for yourself, and if that happened, wouldn't you want her to be happy for you too?
2007-03-05 23:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by J Dubble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was a REAL friend she would be able to take what you're telling us. Just be like, "I don't mean to be rude, but I'm tired of hearing about him all the time, I understand that you like him,but however, I really don't care for him, do u mind cooling it down with talking about him?" and then be like "And I don't wanna stop being your friend and I don't wanna get kicked to the curb, so can we just find some time for us since thats what u do 4 him?" or just be like me and say "UGH PLEASE stop talking about him alreadii, ur doin too much girl!"
2007-03-05 23:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by LadyPureDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate... not to you however, to your friend. About 6 months intothe relationship I realized that my friends had abbaned me and all I was left wiht was this boy. Tell her that you feel she is spending to much time wiht him or thinking about him and you dont see her as much anymore. Tell her you want a girls night out. A sleepover clubbing movies whatever. No boiy talk or boy anything. A 100% girls night!
2007-03-05 23:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by lostcause4luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont end your friendship but face it chick there are things she must handle in the human animal departrment that you arent eligible to address. dont whine or compete. try to let the romance alone unless she is really in danger. you might learn hes cool.
2007-03-05 23:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Leigh M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are jealous. does not matter. Before she commences to talk about her friend, you must be ready to talk so much about your imaginary friend. Those who are talkative are not good listeners. So she will slowly stop boring you anymore. Try this trick.
2007-03-05 23:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by atom45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to change the subject every time she talks about him, and if she doesnt tell her to talk about how she is and just about her. Plz do try to say it nicely
2007-03-05 23:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her another month. she's just infatuated with him right now, but it should wear off in a month or 2. then they'll go through the "fighting" phase and she'll need you.
2007-03-05 23:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you've already slept with him and he isn't that good.
2007-03-05 23:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by dwayman1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋