this question is meant for anyone that is married or lives with a partner in a commited relationship...
whenever I get into an arguement with my wife she runs to tell my mom. this drives me crazy because I dont like to involve anyone in my personal life. we live on our own in case your wondering, what do you people think and what should I do?
2007-03-05 14:30:42 · 16 answers · asked by oldskool 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I was younger and first dating my husband, I always ran to my friends bitching about every little thing. As I got older and our relationship grew, I realized its noones business but ours, and it was unfair for me to talk negative about him...My grandma used to say "What goes on between your four walls, should stay in those four walls"...I would talk to your wife about it, letting her know it hurts you, and if she respects your feelings she will stop..
2007-03-05 14:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by misstikal311 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have a fairly good relationship with your mom maybe you could ask her to step in next time your wife goes telling her about YOUR personal affairs. Perhaps your mom could say something like " You know dear I love you but I really don't like being caught in the middle of your marriage all the time. If you just need someone to talk to every now and then that's fine...but please don't put me in the middle all the time". Or if you don't think that will fly....tell your mom that you appreciate that she is trying to help....but you would really like it if she would just tell your wife that personal problems between a couple should be between them......as that is how you feel.
Best of luck
2007-03-05 14:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your wife that she married you, not your mom. Tell her that it would her her if you went and tried to "Turn" your friends and others against her. maybe it would be a good idea to ask her what it will take to get her to feel comfortable enough to deal with things between the two of you rather than get your mom involved.
2007-03-05 14:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how this bothers you and ask her to please stop doing this. You also should never tell other people your problems then and work on your marriage with her. She may be going to her mom because she does not feel that she can talk to you about how she feels about things. Maybe you should not argue so much. She needs an outlet or person she can talk to and it happens to be her mom. Do you have someone you talk to when you are upset?
2007-03-05 14:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her an ultimatum! Tell her to grow up and the two of you will solve your problems together, and that if she insists on telling your Mom every time you get in an argument., then she can just go live with her!
2007-03-05 14:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be someone who argues to win arguments not to settle the dispute. Just a hunch. If that's the case, you need to stop trying to be right all the time, especially when it comes to your wife.
2007-03-05 14:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by bettercockster1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problems stay inside the relationship. She doesn't want you running and telling your friends whenever you don't agree with her. In addition it's unfair for her to rob your relationship with your mother.
2007-03-05 14:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that she is close with your mom and just wants to vent to her. I understand you don't want your mom knowing all your business. Just try to calmly explain to your wife why you don't want her telling your mother everything. Hopefully, you can come to some sort of agreement.
2007-03-05 14:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her not to tell your mom and that the issue doesn't involve anyone else.
2007-03-05 14:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just have a chat with her and tell her that you aren't comfortable with her telling your mom about you guys' personal life.. it's none of your mom's business... i don't know.. i wouldn't want to tell my mother in law about my husband's and my fights.... i don't even like to tell my mom! maybe some marital counseling could help...
2007-03-05 16:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋