I've been with a girl for 5 + years now. We have grown a lot together as people. We have had our up's and down's. However, lately the relationship seems cold and distant. Also, too familar and more "friendlike". Should I move on?
2007-03-05 14:26:15 · 11 answers · asked by Jimmy Bower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Now is the time, before the things got worse. I had those signals many years ago but i did not pay attention, and now im paying the consequences. Do it now.
2007-03-05 14:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by El guapo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is like a flower: with enough care and nourishment and effort, it will blossom into a beautiful thing, but if nothing is done, then the relationship like a flower can wilt and die out. If you're not sure if you want to call it quits, mutually agree to see other people and to give each other your respective space, and to see if there's any other fish out there worth catching. That can help you either find someone else, or get closer with your mate showing that what you have isn't bad but it needs some work to make it work between the two of you. But it sounds like both of you have gotten "too comfy" meaning that you don't wanna leave but you know things aren't the way they could be. Relationships has its ups and downs, but if the downs are more than the ups, than you should be thinking of making some adjustments. And if you feel that there's nothing either of you can bring to the relationship, then why continue to suffer or live in boredom?
2007-03-05 14:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jim, the statements you make are very common--millions seem to feel that they are cold and distant---a creative couple makes a relationship grow--using communication and respect usually works. You two should be enhancing each other all the time--talk about each other's day--help each other through a problem, compliment each other--use your strengths to make weakness go away--that goes on all the time--not just at the beginning. Find fun everyday---smile and be nice--do the right thing and surprise each other once in a while--flowers, dinner or a movie ----make a " date" once in a while--be creative. Discover a new buch of things--museums, parks, galleries, anything to go out and do something different. 5 years is a good run--find another 5 by rekindling the passion and doing NEW stuff. It only gets stale if you let it get stale. Good luck Jim
2007-03-05 14:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That wonderful, exciting feeling of new love is a beautiful experience. But love does evolve after a period of time to something more comfortable and familiar. If the 2 of you are really growing apart, talk to her to see how she is feeling. Maybe you both feel the same way. Or, maybe you just need better communication and to just work a little harder to keep the spark going. At any rate, after 5 years I think she deserves her chance for an input before you just move on.
2007-03-05 14:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Beckers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realtionships that have been that long should be familar, and friendship is the core of a good realtionship. Now the question is do you want out? Do you not see yourself growing anymore with partner? Because a really good realtionship never stops growing, it just changes the way it grows. By the sound of it, it seems as though you already know what you want to do, just don't forget to let your other half know how you feel!
2007-03-05 14:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to move on when the relationship causes you more pain than happiness. Sometimes two people just move in different directions over the course of the relationship.
2007-03-05 14:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats the case then I say yes u should go on,because if things aren't the same as befor then its not love anymor,but don't ruin ur connection between u guys,I think u guys would be better off as friends=]
2007-03-05 14:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it maybe time to move on especially since the relationship is more friendlike, sounds like you guys just got too comfortable with one another and the relationship has lost its spark it once had in the beginnning....
2007-03-09 11:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might just be a rut. give it some time, if it doesn't change, talk to her, both of y'all need to make an effort, relationships dont just "last" they're work (unfortunately). when all is said and done, if you still feel that way, you know what to do.
2007-03-05 14:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋