We are married since 3 yrs and he comes from a poor family. Now he wants to build a bunglow and buy car for his parents who mak around 25000 Rs a month which is good enough to live a living. He says to bear all my expenses on my own..And has no time to give me as he works for about 14 hours a day. i HAVE TRIED TALKING TO HIM..BUT IN VAIN.
2007-03-05 14:18:23 · 21 answers · asked by seema b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
14 hours a day. Wow, why don't you two both go to work. He can do 7 hours and you can do 7 hours. Then you will have time for each other.
2007-03-05 18:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi . The question u posed is worth discussing asit involes a family , u being tha the so called aggreaved party will definately get frusrtrated but pl do not do that. I as a brother has few suggestion to make as its a jiont family matter. Do u agre?Posing question publicaly will not solve any problem.Nor I suggest u. Pl understand one has to struggle for existance{Everyone}We dont live for ourself only. pl if u dond mind send me yr birth date only{what is your birth sign} n yr husbands also{if u dont mind}I am not an astroleger but i will do something for my sister by asking one person the remedy n let u know on ur emailPl send me} not publically
. Pl dont loose heart. Tomorrow is always another day. Trusu me if u can. Pl reply without any reservation
2007-03-05 14:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by raashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job of your own and start doing things for just you then and forget about asking him for any money. He seems very selfish and mean. If i were you I would leave and seperate from him for a while and see if this wakes him up at all. Have you asked him to go to marriage counseling with you at all? If none of this works i think you will have not other choice but to divorce and let him go.
2007-03-05 14:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with you. in the case if he is not understanding his responsibilities for you then why are you depended upon him. are you doing waiting for a revoultionary change in him try to understand this he is not taking interest in your home and your family he is satisfied in himself. Since he is not taking care of yours please never try to complain him those things otherwise he can go away very far from you which you had never imagined even. He might be thinking about your self only so never tak it on your heart try to build his repo. I am very sure that your love can attract towards you. So just believe on god coz he is always to help you....All the best
2007-03-05 14:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r not working, how will u bear ur expenses on ur own.
besides, he comes from a poor family and work for 14 hours, not much can be expected in such situations.
2007-03-05 15:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might not be an issue i guess there might be different reasons i guess for he being or reacting like this know the exact reasons for this and work on that give some time before u take any adverse advice........ i do agree how it is frustrating .... see and give sometime till u find time to talk ...do not start ur talk at any time see for an appropriate time to talk ....
2007-03-05 20:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another man who can pamper u and make u enjoy all the good things in life. Life is too short, don't waste it on this ingrateful work monster. Let him work, u enjoy with someone who knows how to please u.
2007-03-05 15:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be its time for you to realise that your husband has got moretime to spend with his work and earn a lot of money.
and also hightime that you realise that instead of being that lazy slug you should join some kind of a job.
why disturb him? live and let live.
2007-03-05 15:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by fulofqueries 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should talk to him about divorce and if he brings up money issues he was in to you to get ahead, if he brings up the topic is it somebody else 9/10 he had his eye on someone else, and finally if he says your right either cry really hard to get his attention or put you head up get yo sh** go some where else and then cry..... it's real easy once you do it.
2007-03-05 14:25:05 · answer #9 · answered by saggmel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must be hurting.since he comes from a poor family he must be feeling like showing his gratitude towards his parents who brought him up to this level.but its not an excuse to leave his responsibility towards you.you too be independent and take up a job.be patient he will realise your value.
2007-03-05 14:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋