I have a married female cousin and she's has a kid about 1yr old. Recently, I went hotel with my girlfriend, and after 'enjoy, I went outside for a smoke as usual. I saw my cousin came out from another room, with only t-shirt and shorts on it, and holding a cigarettes on her hand. Anyway, there's a person coming out from the same room itself and I thought it was her hubby. But it turns out to be another man. My cousin walked up to me and told me not to tell anyone.... Should I keep quiet to myself...? Or should I be a busybody and told my cousin's hubby or relatives about it. But I don't want to spoilt the relationship between her and her hubby, or family... And don't want to spoilt both our relation too, as she's consider my closest cousin.... What should I do...?
2007-03-05 14:01:42 · 21 answers · asked by porridge0000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmm... My cousin did have sex with that guy lo... He's her 1st ex... but they both out just for fun... or so-called ons... my cousin did called me and asked if I did told her hubby or anyone... I told her never lo... but actually I did 'talk' to everyone here... =D
2007-03-05 15:13:57 · update #1
I would tell your cousin that you're really uncomfortable with this thing and tell her she needs to talk with her hubby and be honest. Also tell her if she's going to continue to do this to her hubby and child (because yes she is doing this to both) then you don't want to know about it and she needs to go someplace else so you don't have to be put in this position again. Good luck.
2007-03-05 14:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should think about whether you would want to be treated like this, exposed to disease, and possibly raising a child you didn't father. After that, have a serious talk with your girlfriend about what you saw and how you feel about this behavior, and find out how she feels about infidelity. Would it matter to her if you slept with someone else? Would it matter to her if you fathered a child by someone else and passed it off to the other woman's husband or boyfriend? Tell her how you'd feel if she did that to you, too. After that, I'd leave the matter drop except for getting your parents' input, even if you have to admit where you were and why you were there, which pales in comparison to where she was and why she was there. You might want to send an anonymous message to her husband that he should get a genetic test to see if the child is hers because she's been seen with another man recently. Other than that, I wouldn't tell a soul other than a clergyman. Maybe a trusted neighbor or two. Outside of my immediate circle of friends, I wouldn't tell anyone else.
Hey, she brought it on herself. No spouse deserves to be treated like that. I worked in a support group and the divorced told how betrayed they felt by the people all around them who knew what was going on but never told them.
2007-03-05 14:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even care so much? Its your cousin CHEATING, she is not being CHEATED on. Now if it was her hubby walkin out that room w/some other woman, then you would tell her. But its your cousin cheating.Why would you hate on your on cousin? What goes around comes around, What happens in the dark will soon come to light. So you don't need to be the tattle teller... she'll get caught up. MIND YOUR BUSINESS!
2007-03-05 14:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say "clam up". You only saw them leaving a room, you don't know exactly what went on. Its not your relationship that's involved here and its not your relationship to break up.
You may be mistaken if you do speak up and your honesty may not be appreciated by the hubby, it certainly won't be appreaciated by the other two.
Been there, didn't follow my own advice and found that both the wife and the hubby became hostile to me.....nobody will benefit if you talk.
2007-03-05 14:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by William E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is up to you to tell anyone. I do think that you should have a chat with your cousin about how uncomfortable it is making you feel having this knowledge,and that because you are so close maybe this isn't the right way for her to act considering the fact that she is married to another man.other than that not much you can do about it.
2007-03-05 14:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and talk to your cousin. Explain that you feel really guilty about keeping this secret and give her the opportunity to speak to her husband. I wouldn't want to get in the middle of a messy situation.
2007-03-05 14:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by Panda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business, and not your problem.
That being said though, if the fella (cousins hubby) outright asked me, I wouldn't deny it. But don't initiate this conversation yourself.
Oh, and quit the smoking. :)
2007-03-05 14:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by KirksWorld 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe their having problems. Talk to her about it before you go running your mouth off telling everyone. If it were me I could care less, and I'd just let people live their lives unless it negatively affects me or my close family or friends. How close are you to her hubby? There could be issues you don't know about.
2007-03-05 14:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her husband. you might ruin your relationship with your cousin but you will be helping him a lot. she may not be using protection and infecting him with STDs, the kid might not be his and he really just needs to know
2007-03-05 14:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you thought about telling, its your conscious telling you to do so. If your girlfriend was cheating on you with someone else, would you want your cousin to tell you?
2007-03-05 14:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋