I am 20 years old and I havent had anything close to a social life since high school. I haven't even had a girlfriend or anything. My only friend is my German shepherd dog. I'm not that bad looking and I think I'm pretty smart for my age. Why cant I figure this one out?
2007-03-05 13:51:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are who you choose to be. You don't need loads of plastic friends and nightclubs and parties if that scene doesn't make you happy.
Get out and following your own interests, your own hobbies, whatever you like to do in life... and chances are you will meet similar like-minded people who you can have real and meaningful friendships with.
2007-03-05 13:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Narky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, life is just like that to us. But hey, your 20. Thats kinda young ya know :P If you were like 35 or 40 and saying this, than yeah, id be worried. But your still young and you have alot of life to enjoy. Really, its all about how you think of things and your attitude towards life. You can have a dog as your only best friend and still feel content. It depends on you.
But if you want some advice as to how to improve your situation than I recommend getting involved in something. College is a great place to make friends. You had a good social life in highschool you say? Well, college is another great place for that too :)
2007-03-05 21:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you change how you are,you will always have what you've got. You didnt explain why you dont have social life? You said you arent a bad looking that what is the problem? Go out and talk to people and socialize and break the mold.
2007-03-05 21:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you refer to yourself as a "pathetic wretch". it's all about perceived confidence. if you believe you have little and will fail, then low and behold, you will (self-fulling prophecy). if you believe otherwise, then you will do otherwise. i know it sounds corny, but believe in yourself or better yet see yourself as the pinnacle of creation. though it may sound jerkish, that's what it takes. now i'm not saying go proclaim to everyone that you are the pinnacle of creation as that would be jerkish. i am saying just think and believe this and you will go much further and enjoy much more than i believe you are now.
2007-03-05 22:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by Flabbergasted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe, I think the first step is to be more confident about yourself! I don't think you are a wretch! You could try going to college to make friends or make friends where you work! Or maybe get back in touch with some old friends! :D
~*~StardustFaerie24~*~
2007-03-05 21:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by ★☆キザ☆★ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you not have any interests? How is your self-esteem? Maybe you just haven't been ready or that interested in dating and close friendships. Were you hurt from someone, hiding something? You need to find those answers first.
2007-03-05 22:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by elimayme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! You're young and you have PLENTY of time left to find that special someone, plus I'm sure your dog enjoys your company. All the advice I can offer you is that maybe if you stop looking for love, it will find you! Just give it time!
2007-03-05 21:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need a job or need to get going to collage ,find some new friends and talk with a counselor but get out and go live good luck
2007-03-05 21:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by raindovewmn41 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a pub bud.
2007-03-05 21:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Nick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are just fine evreybody is perfect
2007-03-05 21:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋