i loved ur advice about the mother inlaws so i think it would be lovely if u can contact me if u want to chat that would be so nice cuz i thought some of the answers were so mature
2007-03-05 13:44:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
for those who dont know, i need mature advice from indian guys cus they r the ones who know as to why they stay quiet if the mom is mean to the wife,, cuz my husband stays quiet and says he will never say anything to his mom..she has made me so depressed i got sick i started vomitting and had deep depression i didnt tell him its due to his mother he would never believe me and say im a drama queen
2007-03-05 13:46:22 · update #1
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2007-03-12 21:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by xxsanxx 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well well well, its nice to hear from someone who wants to hear the other side of the story from males... interesting. Well yes you can definitely say indian men have a lot of respect for our parents. Cant say all but yes most number of cases its like that. And what would you say if you know its your mom and whatever she says might not be correct but what actually can u do abt it?? Neither you can fight with her bcz that sounds indecent, nor you can tell her to get out of the house, cz thats no way correct...!! So what shall you say?? IN the end the people are gonna say that the wife has made you a jerk.. cant even control his own wife and giving disrespect to his own parents just bcz of some girl who has just entered the house few days back... thats mostly embarrasing.
A guy has to listen to both the people he loves.. his mom, who has been there for him all the time since his childhood and one who is his life and future and whom he loves a lot but cant find a particular solution to some problems... arising between the most beloved ladies of his life!! whoever gets the back up of a guy , the other person is going to get angry even if you know you have taken the right side... and it mostly results in house-break... and thats what nobody wants....isn it??
We all want all the ladies to be happy in the house, its different that its hard in real life.
Hope you are doing good now....
2007-03-10 01:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Deeps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not an indian guy nor woman.But i do have a few indian men as friends,so i do understand where you are comming from.Respect for his mother is undeniable.I am sure he loves you,but is put in a bad situation between the two women he loves.Why is it that the mother does not like you?Mabe it would be a good thing for you to talk to her alone.Ask her why.Tell her you love her son ,and love and respect her, and would like for things to go smoothly for all of you.You take the initiative, invite her to spend time with you.Mabe she feels threatened that you will try and keep her son from her.Talking things out is a good way to try and resolve this.I wish you all the best dear....
2007-03-12 00:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by annie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think there is a reason to be happy.your guy who has spent so many years with his mom and dad is silent on both sides because he is in a dilemma on whose side to take.means he already loves u as much as he does to his mom and dad in a short span of time u spent with him.
if he said u were a drama queen was ur mom in law around?
if yes it was to just make her feel happy
if no,it means he must have also said something to his mom equally
when u were not around
so dear shallow pls forget the brawls and keep moving
and u always have a reason to be happy about even if it seems negative to u
it may have a positive side of it which u never try to see
so if u like to see the positive side of things keep in touch with me on my mail :genuinelygeniusjoe@yahoo.com
2007-03-05 15:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is common problem in indian families where inlaws hypnotize their boys and most of the times they succeed.Children are not given liberty in their married life.Better talk to your husband and get help of his friends or older persons.You should be determined and also you should have very good understanding with your husband.Dont insult your inlaws but get the freedom you want in your married life.
2007-03-09 21:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by science for humanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deep respect...sounds like some men need to wise up. regardless of race or whatever. thats abuse and in GOD eyes thats wrong. I'm sorry you married such a whimp as a husband that cant stand up for his wife...this world is messed up and it makes me deeply sad what people let happen to the ones they supposedly love because of (DEEP RESPECT) that deep respect is wrong then if you let someone get abused emotionally or physically. I'm glad i grew up in America because we are completely free and the vast majority are happy.
2007-03-05 14:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
at any stage we have to balance between wife and parents.
further, withour ur contact address, i can't contact u.
if u feel like add me in y messanger
2007-03-05 16:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ego is working in you. Go for compromise. Tomorrow your in-laws will behave this.
2007-03-05 14:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Expression 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some hilarious punjabi songs while you are working and put some jing into your life:
http://sukhbirsangha.tripod.com/sukhbir/id44.html
Sas Kutni...
2007-03-12 08:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WE HAVE GREAT RESPECT FOR OUR PARENTS.
2007-03-05 13:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋