My bf and I have been together for 3 yrs and we live together.. He works in a bar so he works at night and I work during the day. At one point we were arguing quit a bit . We spoke about breaking up because we werent getting along very well . We seem to be getting along better now and maybe try and work things out. About a month ago the same week we talked about breaking up and things were bad,he came home late from the bar and had a couple of drinks, when I found him passed out at his computer , I moved his mouse to see what he was looking at and it was an email to a barmaid at his job who is in Australia and it said that he missed her, asked about her trip and at the end he wrote that he was thinking of her. not right away but he admitted feeling vulernable and they got along good so he wrote her causethings were bad between us and it was nice to have a conversation with out arguing. he assures me that he isnt interested and that they are friends, he had a moment of weakness??
2007-03-05 13:41:51 · 16 answers · asked by viva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's your question?
You need to trust your boyfriend. He has a friend who he feels a need to go to when you two are fighting. That means that he isn't getting what he needs from you.
Obviously this is a two-way street.
Personally, I would talk to him. He isn't going to cheat on you, but he needs more attention and love. Talk to him. Tell him what YOU need as well.
If you both are in tune to making this work, it will work.
2007-03-05 13:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your question is but, I find it very disrespectful for someone to have any type of concealed relationship when they live with someone else. When did the moment of weakness start? Before or after he asked and received her email address? How long has he been weak for this girl or at all with anyone. It always kills me how people think it's OK to stray when things aren't going as well as they'd like. Relationships are not always going to be easy sailing. What's going to happen the next time you guys aren't seeing eye to eye? It's not alright for him to miss another NEW woman. It's not OK for him to seek comfort in the email of another woman. He could have talked to someone else. He didn't need to bring a stranger into your business. Remember this problem didn't start with that email. It started when he had the nerve to ask for or accept her address. That means he had more than enough time to do the right thing. That's not a moment that's time long enough for him to choose. He chose her over you.
2007-03-05 21:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage or relationship is actually a beautiful friendship . It is about respecting each other and it is also without selfishness. It comes directely from the soul. When one discovers that kind of relationship you are the most luckiest person in this world.
2007-03-05 22:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by shaundhillonth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose it could be true... he was probably just feeling like things were going to be over.... however, he should not really be thinking or looking at anyone unless and until you are completely out of the pisture.. but since you didn't catch him having computer sex or something like that, i would give him another chance, if you want to.... 3 years is a long time to throw away.. i did it and now my ex is married and i regret it every day... good luck...
2007-03-05 21:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moment of weakness? No I don't think so... Okay think about it for a moment how is he going to act when things aren't right with you. Put it this way what if you guys had a bad fight and she was present if he had sex with her would you believe that he was "just" vulnerable?
Girl be a woman and put that man in his place i think that you should evaluate your relationship with this guy.
2007-03-05 22:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he can be honest with you, and if he tells you nothing, hate to tell you, but one of you needs to move out. During a tough time, one needs to move out, so you can both cool down, and have your space for a while.
When things are settled, you can live together again.
2007-03-05 21:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Heather♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an honest discussion and figure out whether you accept his answer or not.
Than decide where you want to go from there.
2007-03-05 21:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur staggered working hrs are not conducive to a good relationship.
2007-03-05 22:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have some faith in your bf..tell him that you trust him...and be understanding becoz its not every day you get to nail an Australian barmaid..
2007-03-05 21:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by roobeng.indahouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me write you a love letter, and keep it on your computer for him to find, and see how he likes it :)
2007-03-05 21:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by PH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋