My girlfriend needs to lose weight...?

Question

now don't get me wrong, i LOVE my girlfriend, and in fact we're getting married next year, but she needs to lose weight for health reasons.

we're both 140kilo (308 pounds), but i'm 6'4 with alot of muscle and she's at least a foot shorter than me.

myself and her family are worried about her health, she has really bad knees and gets sick easily, but whenever i try to talk to her about her weight she goes right on the defensive and I can't say anything that she won't take the wrong way and end up crying over

she's a wonderful girl and i love her so much, but i don't want her to end up dying at 50 or even earlier, and we really want kids but i don't think it's healthy for her to get pregnant yet.

i'm at a loss of what to do!!!

Answer 1

why not go for walks together and try some healthy foods.

Answer 2

Hi, Why not talk to her again and tell her you thing you need to drop a few pounds and are planning on doing some slow walking for awhile and them some fast walking. Ask her if she would join you. That way she thinks she will be helping you out,instant of the other way around. After you start going with her,tell her you want to start riding a bike to help with strenghten your legs and thighs.Get 2 bike and start that too. Start out slow maybe 2 blocks and work your way up to 1 mile. What ever else you can think of to help your girlfriend do it. Just make sure you do them with her. But make her believe it's you that wants to do this. Work together so she will do it and she will start feeling better soon. She needs to start drinking a lot of water and cut out all sweets and all sodas too. Good Luck and it's great that you care about her health. Have a happy marriages and healthy children when she is ready. A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 3

you're no longer assume to drop some weight quickly. Its risky. and that i'm hoping you would be greater worried approximately her well being than seems. Having a splash one does alot to the physique. Infact maximum women folk people finally end up having tooth fallout because of the fact infant takes each and all the calcium. and because she had the infant basically 7 months in the past, her hormones are no longer thoroughly back to favourite, so good hazard she remains emotional. Dont harp on her related to the burden. And a healthful nutrition ordinary and exercising is what it takes. even nevertheless it additionally demands universal quantities of sleep. and that i could assume she isnt getting that the two. supply her a smash.

Answer 4

Oooooh! Bad situation...Hmmm..

She's lucky to have a guy like you :)

Would it be possible to sign her up for something and suprise her? Like one of those excercize/spa things?

Maybe you can excersize with her, tell her your going out to (insert type of excersize here) and insist she gos with you (Dont do it without her)

Could you tell her through a note or something? That way when she gets defensive you're not around to take the blunt...Or possibly the phone? Nothing is as good as in person, but It's better than nothing

Possibly you could let a doctor tell her?

I'm at a loss of ideas now too, good luck

Answer 5

When you tell her that she needs to lose weight make sure that you tell her that it's for her own health and you'll love her no matter what but you don't want her to be unhealthy. Tell her what the risks are. But make sure you just don't say "you need to lose weight" and nothing else because that would hurt her feelings. Maybe you could suggest going to a gym together or doing some physical activities together.

Answer 6

Your best approach would be to tell her you would like to try and start leading a healthier lifestyle for the sake of your future family and would she be willing to help you. If you go to a nutritionist together and start an exercise routine then your chances of having things work increase dramatically. Also, if you approach this as a healthy lifestyle change then she will not feel as threatened and she will feel it is for both of you rather than being singled out. My husband and I go to the local YMCA to work out the memberships are fairly inexpensive and great for a family so when you are ready for children they can learn how to be healhty as well.

Answer 7

Women can be very sensitive about this subject, even if they agree. I m guilty. I myself am over weight and i know that I shuld loose weight for health reasons. My fiance agrees and does his best to help. I do get defensive when he is very direct....
Yet, I am more comprehensible when he makes suggestions like
1. Let's dance (he loves to dance, and tries to teach me)
Lessons would be great.
2. Suggest a walk around the neiborhood and check out the sunset
3. Tell her you're thinking about joining the gym, and would love her company....you could spend more time together. This is what my fiance did, and i love going to the gym with him. Its helping.
4. Invite her to do activities with you that will get her moving.

Answer 8

They her to follow this step
Exercise everyday like jogging around the block
Skip meals. Eat 2 times per day than 3 times per day
Dont eat until you're full
Eat fruits at night if your hungry.
Drinks lots of water and stop all the fast food and chocolate.
I found this on this website. There are more tips and info.

Answer 9

kay I honestly thought you were being a jerk at first but I thought I should actually read the question and now I understand. You could think of ways to go exercising with her cause you should also be worried about your health. Some things you may be able to do are hiking, swimming, jogging, walking, etc. Just have fun with it.

Answer 10

Stop trying to talk to her. Instead send her a beautiful card that says I love you. Insert a letter that starts out as saying I will always want to be with you and I will always be proud of you and respect you no matter how much you weigh. Honey, I'm scared. I'm scared for both of us. Big men get big baggy over-worked hearts and they die young! Big women get diabetes and arthritis and become crippled early in life. Please help me help us. I want to go with you to a place that can help us both get in better shape to enjoy each other's company for a long long time. Do you love me enough to give me this as a wedding gift?

Make an appointment with a dietician.........something private with someone non-judgemental and unassuming. Start with your doctor's office and ask him to refer you. If YOU really mean what you say YOU will make the first step for BOTH of you. You won't back out at the last minute either. Stick it out with her. 308 pounds is too heavy for you too my friend. Best of luck.

Answer 11

If you want to take a discreet approach, contact her doctor, tell him/her that you're concerned about your wife's weight, and ask if s/he can bring up the subject when your wife goes in on her next checkup.

If your wife truly has a problem, any good doctor should bring it up without you even having to contact them. You can encourage your wife to go in for a routine physical by mentioning that you haven't had one in a while and were thinking about scheduling one. Offer to sign her up for one too. If the problem is really as you're describing it, I would think the doctor would bring it up without you needing to ask.

Edit: You can also remind her that it's always a good idea to see a doctor for an examination before trying to conceive. Good luck!