Separations?

Question

Do you think a separation is 'generally' a good way to work out problems in a relationship? I personally think staying together and working things out is best and if they can't be worked out then it's time to call it a day.

What are your views?

Answer 1

yes, seperations are excellent ways to solve problems, you stay away from each other and you move away and you live your own seperate lives and don't deal with each other and you don't talk to each other and the fairy godmother comes down and magically waves her wand and makes all your problems go away because you have put forth such an effort to solve them yourselves

you solves problems by working on them, not by running away from them and concentrating your efforts on yourself instead of the problem at hand

Answer 2

In most cases staying together is better than separation. There are some cases where separation, for a time, is better. It's very personal. In my view, it's never time to call it a day. Even in cases with infidelity, marriages can be saved if the choice is made to do so. It's a choice.

Answer 3

I think couples need to stay together and work things out but sometimes you may just need to be apart for awhile. I do think that if a couple is separated they still need to talk each day and keep those lines of communication open.

Answer 4

I think sometimes people need to get away from one another to realize how much they love and need each other. Maybe "separation" isn't the best way to put it. Maybe one just needs to go on vacation. Yes, you should be able to work it out together, but sometimes it really does help to get away from everything and start remembering all the good things.

Answer 5

Yes at times i feel it is good to be seperated to try and work things out with a clear mind. It all depends what the situation is though as sometimes seperation is not always the answer either. I also recommend marriage counseling too while being seperated as this will help too. In the case of physical abuse of either a spouse or a child then to me divorce is the only answer and you get out and away from it ASAP and get help and do not look back.

Answer 6

i think that separations are a good way to be apart so you can think if you even want to stay together, and if you can't work things out when you are together then separate and if that solves nothing file for a divorce

Answer 7

i think the only time a separation (at least in marriage) is when there is abuse. other than that the two people involved should be committed enough to work things out. weather its cheating, or lying or whatever, if they work together with open minds and hearts, they can save the relationship and cherish it all the more.

Answer 8

Depends on the circumstances. I believe you can love someone but cannot stand to be with them under the same roof. If you are so angry inside it might be beneficial to separate for a short while just so you can think without all the bad things around you each day.

Answer 9

I agree...of course there are many reasons a partner may want time out...but we should be the one that could help or fix things together...if they want a separation...it can mean that someone else is in the pic and they want them to help them get through hard times and that generally means its going to get worse than better for the marriage.

Answer 10

IMHO seperations are just a part of the divorce game. That give one person absolute freedom do to whatever they want and to give the one who wants to work things out a flicker of hope and many nights of pain missing the person they love. worthless for two people that love each other, you dont get away from each other to work with each other.

Answer 11

I agree with you. If one person moves out of the house it gives the other person an opportunity to start seeing other people and to start a new life. i think marriage counseling would be a better solution or if you're a member of a church talk to the minister or pastor.