Advice on my marrige to Filipina? Please read all.........?

Question

I am a 87 yr old retired real estate developer and I am getting ready to get a fiancee visa for my 21 yr old student nurse Filipina. Does anybody have any advice on what I should expect when I finally meet her? We have been communicating for awhile now on the internet and she says it is perfectly normal to get married even if we have never met in person because she can tell that I am a loving man. She is a very beautiful young woman and I think that in addition to being my wife she will be able to take care of me and my heart condition since she is going to nursing school. Most importantly she seems to be a very sincere woman and very caring. Does anybody have a similar experience that they would like to share?

Answer 1

Do whatever you want to. If you have children I would suggest giving all your things to them first that way there is no legal dispute after you die. The only bad thing is if she knows that you do that then she might not marry you which is probably better.

Answer 2

I am not married to a Filipina, but am dating one with an eye toward marriage. I have been very worried about out age difference (I am 60 and she is 45). 87 and 21 seems odd even to me. Many Filipinas marry older men - and NOT just for the money - since they like stability and a calm family life. Also, most older men are less likely to cheat on their wife. Many Filipino husbands have "second wives" since divorce is unlawful in The Philippines. I'm sure she is a beautiful young woman - many Filipinas are! She may even be a talented trained nurse - many Filipinas are. But, it is more likely she is looking at you like an ATM. I could be wrong - my Filipina actually refuses money from me until after we are married - but, then, you will be expected to support her extended family. Please be careful! I think my lady loves me regardless of age difference (which is only 15 years), but one never knows for sure until much later.

I suggest that marrying someone you have never met is not very smart. My lady and I have been together over a year - and I'm still learning about her. In fact, an F-1 visa is not supposed to be granted unless the two parties have met (and known each other for a while). If you are really interested in her, go to The Philippines and meet her (and her family). Maybe even consider living there for a while.

Answer 3

I am 37, married to a 27 year old filipina. So I know about Filipina marriages. Anyone who would agree to marriage before meeting the other person is not in their right mind. Also, any filipina who is 21, who wants to marry a 87 year old man is not in their right mind. Why in the world would she want to marry a man who is 66 years older than her? Why would she marry her grandfather, and why do you want a 21 year old? Robbing the cradle doesn't even begin to describe this. In a couple of years when you are dead, your 20 something year old wife will return to the Philippines with a big old fat bank account, and will be laughing all the way to the bank. What is wrong with you? She loves music by Britney Spears, and the Backstreet boys, and you like Glenn Miller. You are not only a generation apart, but 2 generations. When she wants to go to a rock concert, what will you do? Wheel down there in your wheelchair? Get a grip!!!!!! Can you spell gold digger?

Answer 4

I got the same situation of her last year. The guy is younger than you since he's 60 yrs. old & I was a student nurse. I don't believe that love existed on that klnd of age gap darling. I turned down that man in spite of all the things he got to offer me and I'm proud of it...It's like heart over mind in my case but come to think of it. Maybe your fiancee is using her mind. Well, the two of you can benefits the same time... company for the both of you, travel & chance for her to work in your place & you got an instant nurse in the near future to take care of you. Am I right? Anyways, Good luck for the both of you. (- -,)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

God, I am glad I read this because I now know I am not the only man having a difficult time dealing with growing old. I thank God as of now I am not acting as foolishly as you.

We can use our money to purchase drugs, surgery, sex (?) and the latest style clothes, but the next morning if we wake up we will still be one day older than the night before.

I would think the age differences would be a red flag for those in government that would consider your application for a visa and they would prevent you from making this mistake.

I am sure a lot of people establish good relationships over the Internet and in this age of electronic communication I suppose it is rapidly becoming normal, but to say it is "perfectly normal" for an 87 year old man to establish a romantic relationship with a 21 year old woman over the Internet or in person is ridiculous.

I would think you could expect her to be very devoted to your every need and if you do not live long after the two of you get together she will most likely be able to continue to do her "JOB" well until you meet your end.

To many your post will be funny, but to me it is very sad because I know how difficult it is for a man that has been active all his life to deal with getting old. Each day I wake up wondering how I will deal with the boredom. I am an American living in the Philippines and I came here in hopes the change in culture and surrounding would jump start my life. It has not. The only difference is I am now growing older in the Philippines vs the United States. Regardless of how hard it may be we are responsible to give meaning to each day of our lifes and we cannot depend on someone else to do it for us. Bringing a much younger person into the picture may only be a daily reminder of how old you have actually become.

I do not like being around elderly people because the majority of them are more focused on the past than the future. I read three newspapers a day and keep up with current events and would prefer to discuss the possibility of World War III than the events of World War II.

I do not fit in with the younger generation because they are focused on the moment at hand. I do not know who the movie stars are sleeping with, where the latest night spots are located or that Elizabeth Hurley had a fairy tale wedding. I do not know and I do not care.

I do not fit in with the middle age group because they are too involved with trying to advance their careers, providing for their families and accumulating material goods they do not have time for me.

More often than not I feel like a fish out of water. I am familiar with the road you are traveling, but I do not think the road will be made any smoother by making fools of ourselves in our twilight years. It may not be imporant to you, but it is important to me to maintain the dignity I have spent a lifetime building for myself.

Many will also say you deserve whatever you get for they do not know the reality of lonliness, but I believe you are desperate to fill a void in your life and she is taking advantage of your situation.

Some will justify what she is doing due the poverty found in the Philippines. In my opinion there is no excuse or justification for taking advantage of someone at any time especially when they are facing difficult times. The truth is she is a prostitute of the worst sort and the majority of the poor people in the Philippines would be disgusted by what she is doing.

Answer 7

Without knowing all the details of your relationship with her my gut instinct is that she is trying to scam you in some way or another. I have been to the Philippines a few times and known alot of filipina's. I have met some that could be the best wife you could ever hope to get and some that are the biggest liars in asia. My recommendation for what its worth would be for you to take a couple of weeks and go to the Philippines if your health permits and get to know some of them in person before making any commitments. If you would like to send me an email I will tell you about the places I have been and what I found there.

Answer 8

Well Sir,

dont be surprised if she wants you to take care of her extended family also. I would honestly travel to the philippines and ask to meet her family and see how she reacts about you meeting her family. I know your 87 but traveling there would be a good idea. If she doesnt let you meet the family that you will be taking care of, then maybe she isnt that sincere. If she says okay meet the family I still wouldnt put her on bank accounts but maybe give her an allowance kinda thing.

I have traveled to PI a few times, the girls play games especially when they are poor and will do anything to take care of their family, its whats most important to them.

However they will be more sincere then Anna Nicole Smith

Good luck

Answer 9

i have seen a situation like that on tv but they are both filipinos and both living there.the guy is on his late 20's and the old lady is on her early 70'S.if the old lady is packed with huge bank acct it will be easier to think that the young man marry her for money but she has nothing even her front teeth are already gone.why do you think he marry the old lady?for love?they been together for 7 years now....i mean you can give it a shot by seeing her personally first then decide if it worth spending your remaining years with her.

Answer 10

Advice?

Seems like you had all the advice you wanted. You heard viewpoints from the females, males, mature and young respondents.

It seems like you are set into marrying her. Hope that the relationship will be happy for everyone concerned.