i am 14 and i want a baby but my mom and dad are going to get soooooooo!!!!mad and i dont konw what to do and i want someone who can help me...
2007-03-05 12:58:39 · 45 answers · asked by andrea c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
be a kid, not a kid having a kid.
sit down, and write all the great things about being a teenager.
ya know, hanging w/friends when you want.
going to parties, no BIG worries other than school, hanging w/your boyfriend. basically being young and having fun.
now if you were to have a baby...you can take that list of great stuff...and burn it. cause you will NEVER be able to do those things again w/out thinking "What will i do with the baby?" "Who is gonna watch the baby?"
etc.
i am a mom, i have 3 kids. it's a TOUGH job honey. i don't have time to do a lot of the things i would want to do. i can't just hop in my car and go hang w/my girlfriends. i can't just buy all the cute shoes or clothes i want because i have 3 kids to feed and clothe FIRST!
i have bills, a husband that works very hard to provide for his family, and a morgage.
these are things that would confuse and drown you right now hon. that is a FULL TIME job, w/little time to have fun. i love my life, but if i had tried all this at 14, NO way!
be a teenager....that's the BEST times of your life right now. DONT screw that up.
be a kid. tell your boyfriend NO. it's YOUR body, not his.
2007-03-05 13:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are too young! Even when you are married and have a home and a job nothing can prepare you for how much work a baby will be. I have three kids and I'll tell you the truth, the first baby was the most difficult because I didn't know anything. I was scared I was doing everything wrong and I was 23 and married to a hard working suportive husband! Please don't do this, you will be making your life so hard and remember it's not just your life you will be wrecking, don't forget the baby will want a good life too. At 14 there is no way you are ready or prepared for that responsibility!
2007-03-05 13:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by cooltoque 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so stupid if you get [pregnant so young and because a boyfriend says so. You don't know what trouble you will cause yourself. think of this first:
1. Babies get sick-vomit and have diarrhea all over the place.
2. If you breastfeed, you will be nursing every two hrs. with no help.
3. Babies cost money and need clothes, formula, dr. appt., etc. They are not toys.
4. Do you want to go to clubs? the prom? You will not be able to if you have a baby.
5. 14 is still a child. Your body is not fully developed. What if your baby isn't perfect and is born with disabilities? What then?
6. this boyfriend can leave at anytime things get rough.
7. Think about yourself first. Do you want to travel? finish school? college maybe? Date a lot.
8. your relationship is not forever. Talk to your mother. Sister. Someone. Before you do something stupid.
2007-03-05 13:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by noitall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't have to be pregnant. Also, if he leaves, your boyfriend won't be raising that baby. Why in the world would you want to be pregnant at 14? A baby isn't a puppy. You can't leave it in a crate when you want to go to the mall. I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic here. Enjoy high school. Go to college if you can. Have a life. Have some fun! I'm not saying having a baby ruins your life but it brings your social life to a screeching halt. Better be ready to give up everything for that baby and to love him/her more than you love yourself. No child of 14 can do that. And yes, your parents would and SHOULD be mad. If your boyfriend wants a baby now, he'll still want one in 10 years. Chances are, he won't be around, hon. Don't do this to yourself. You have only ONE CHANCE to be a teenager. Parenthood is not part of being a teenager and I don't understand anyone who thinks it is.
2007-03-05 13:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't. Give yourself time to grow up. Baby yourself. Focus on your own growth. You need to study hard, finish school, go to college. Experience what it's like to be a young adult with limited responsibilities, then when you're over the age of 25--then think about settling down and having babies. If you do this now, you are limiting yourself and your opportunities for a good life. You need to have prospects and be able to take care of yourself before you can even consider having children. Children are utterly dependent on you. It is a 24 hour/7 days a week job. And let me tell you, it's hard enough when you're married and have a truly committed man helping you.
If this man truly loves you, he would not ask this of you. It's too huge and you are in no position to make such a life altering judgement at your age.
IF someone TRULY loves you they want what is going to be best for you without self interest and if your boyfriend is asking this of you at your age he doesn't love you.
Your future is in your own hands. Don't just give it away to the first person who tells you they love you. You need to discover who you are first before you can be someone's mom.
2007-03-05 13:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by mommabear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're still scared of your parents, then obviously you're too young.
Trust me, you don't really want a baby, you just feel lonely!
You don't the first thing about what taking care of a baby 24/7 is like. How are you gonna support this child? You're not even old enough to get a job. Oh let me guess... you want everyone else to help pay for this baby; your parents and relatives, all of us as taxpayers, is that right?
2007-03-05 13:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all what are you thinking. My daughter is your age and she is not allowed to have a boyfriend never mind sex or thinking of having a baby. School should be your number one priority. The best advise that I can give you is to please talk with your parents. Tell them the truth. It's better to make them mad for a little while than making them sad for ever. Having a baby is a huge responsibility. Try baby sitting someones baby for seven consecutive days without the help of anyone. And then see if you still want a baby. Good Luck!
2007-03-05 13:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, why in the world do you think you want a baby??? You're a baby yourself. Do you have lots and lots of money? You'll need it for diapers, bottles, formula, baby food, clothes, crib, car seat, toilet training seat, the list goes on and on. Are you ready to go through labor, wake up all night with a baby, can't go anywhere until you find a babysitter? Do you have your own home or car? How will you take the baby to all the doctor visits for its shots? And what about when the baby gets sick and high fever and coughing all night? Or colic or constipation?
ARE YOU READY FOR ALL THAT???????????
2007-03-05 13:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you don't want to do, especially try to get pregnant. Having a baby at such a young age is such a huge responsibility and you will miss so much of your teen life... all the fun out with friends. While everyone else is out going to football games, parties, dancing, and having fun you will have to be at home with a crying baby. Just wait. You will know when you are ready.
2007-03-05 13:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl some one should kick ur butt u are 14 years old and should evern bee having sex i was 15 when i got preg with my lil one im 20 now u need to finsh school and tell u bf to kick rocks dont do it u are to young to have a baby u will not have no life trust me i know no partys or anything like that ur mom and dad dont have time to raise a nother kid that is not theres okay so no u should not have a baby be scared because labor is painfull nothing like whta u will ever go threw
2007-03-05 13:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll694617192002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋