2007-03-05 12:52:53 · 18 answers · asked by willaluvscharlie2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gather the facts, give yourself time to get over the initial shock and hurt and anger, then make a decision. If he's cheated - you need to find out whether or not you can forgive and forget (you'll definitely have to forget on this one). Or you need to leave without regret.
If he hasn't cheated - you need to look at what steps need to be taken to save your relationship which is obviously on the rocks.
2007-03-05 12:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by lbkipp@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some solid evidence. Most men can't have an affair without three things: a phone, some money, and a car.
So: scour the phone bills - regular and cell. Look for the pattern - calling a certain number a lot, early, lunch, or late.
Check the ATM and credit card bills - withdrawals that can't be explained, cash advances, hotels, etc.
Check the car's mileage. If work is 15 miles away, that's 30 a day plus a few. If on Tuesday and Thursday he burns through 100 miles, where is he going?
Get some hard data and don't just rely on intuition.
2007-03-06 04:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a pi or have a friend that he does not know follow and spy on him for you. You could also take him on the Maury show and have him take a lie detector test. Have you confronted him and asked him about this yet? What makes you think he is cheating? Usually if you think or feel they are cheating or being unfaithful you have a gut instict about things like this and usually these feelings are right. Do all you can to find out if he is cheating or not and if you find out he is in fact cheating what will you do?
2007-03-05 21:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that,has he cut back on having sex with you,if so it could be he is cheating or his hormone level is down but if you can still get him up that would not be the problem,so look at his pattern,does he work later now or go to work early,stay on the phone more,saying he is going out with the guys more than he did befor,if he is follow him and find out for sure,if he is doing these things most likely he is cheating.
2007-03-05 21:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two ways to approach this, face him openly with your feelings and ask him to explain what the heck is going on. The other is to find out for certain, look into his wallet, cell phone call in to see him if he tells you that he will be late, having a few drinks after work. Ask him where he will be and just drop in. I favour the first method because it gets things out in the open and you will read from his reactions if he is or isn't. In either case you have issues between you that need resolution
2007-03-05 21:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, if you honestly believe he is, then Im sorry hun.. but he probably is. You need to confront him... ask him whats up.. he's probably going to lie about it and make you feel bad for even questioning him if he's guilty. If he is NOT cheating then he will want to prove it some how and you will need to decide for yourself on whether or not you want to believe him. You need to make a plan on what you are going to do if he is infact cheating.. Whatever you do .. if he is cheating it is NOT your fault.. in no way shape or form, and dont ever let him tell you that. Its HIS fault and HIS wrong doing, not yours. I hope this helps, take care.
2007-03-05 21:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by callmecouture 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out...asking may only lead to more deception...not to mention, hiding this affair and allowing it to resume when he feels your more easily fooled....this is not to say he is having an affair, but when a spouse has that gut feeling, somethings up...investigate..the truth will reveal itself.
2007-03-05 21:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheating what are you gonna do?... are you gonna leave, are you gonna kick him out.. are you gonna forgive him?
If you think you'll do the first two choices, look credit cards, cellphone bills, e-mails and follow him.
If you're gonna forgive him... save yourself the trouble and the heart break and let things be. Don't make your life a living hell.
2007-03-05 21:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sit around dwelling on "ifs" and "maybe's". Find out for sure. You'll just drive yourself crazy thinking about it until you know for sure. But if he isn't and you start acting all weird he might get angry or think you're actually cheating, so tread carefully.
2007-03-05 21:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think. Think is not enough. You needed to make sure it is true. Have some proof before you wanted to confront him. Or else it might come right back at you. Or broke your marriage if he did not cheat.
2007-03-05 21:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋