i got these friends that say there my friends but act differently when im around, and they do a lot of stuff behind my back and they think i don't know about it. but there so stupid that most of the time i find out because f them. any ways what should i do without hurting them?
2007-03-05 12:28:32 · 7 answers · asked by Christine O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your not gonna be able to get rid of them without hurting them. But they hurt you more by lying and going behind your back. Just be honest with them and move on with your life..it wont be easy but it will be worth it..Good luck
2007-03-05 12:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by shyroc15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are like that, why are you worried about hurting them?
They are not worried about hurting you|
I see this all the time now, someone is honestly trying to communicate with a group, and the group is simply playing the person while speaking in code to each other on another level.
I used to be the victim of that all the time, but somehow I was given the gift of seeing on that extra level, so it is plain to me when it happens|
It is actually a despicable form of deceit and dishonesty, as they hold that the faculty of speech is merely to be used to deceive others to get what they want|
What makes it particularly cold-blooded is that they understand what the concept of honesty is and the fact that people value it and try to exercise it in their dealings with others| But they simply exploit this in another to make him or her think that they are honestly communicating with them, but are simply playing them to extract the information that they hear in confidence to use against that person at the opportune time|
It is satanic, but it seems as if evil now has no bounds|
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2007-03-05 12:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop calling them and when they call you or ask you to hang out, say you have made other plans or that you have homework to do. eventually they'll give up and you'll basically stop talking. or you could just tell them that you know that they've been lying and you want it to stop or your friendship with them will stop. they wont get mad, if anything they'll be a little dissapointed in themselves. but if they're really the liars that you say they are (be sure that youre getting the whole story[s]) you shouldnt be afraid of hurting them.
2007-03-05 12:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why care about hurting them? they care less about your feelings and are being disrespectful toward you. Just leave them alone. Take what they say with a grain of salt and find new hobbies and ventures to get into, you'll eventually meet more people and gain real friends.
2007-03-05 12:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to them and ask y they doing that or find out if what u thinkin bout them is rite or wrong and then talk straight up to em
..if that aint work then then jus ignore them and get beeter freinds and then the'll get jealous and they might do something or maybe start being nice ot you..lol
2007-03-05 12:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by zakriyaakhan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i was mind of in the same situation, i had a friend that i baisically wanted to end it with, well, lol, it took alot of courage, but i called her up and said baisically why i didnt want to b her friend, and yea, then i told her i still wanted to b able to talk to her, but just not as CLOSE close friends, and now she is really miffed, and wont talk to me, but im ok with that lol, so ya, good luk
2007-03-05 12:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by aggiegrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friends lied to you, who gives a crap if you hurt them or not. payback's a *****
2007-03-05 12:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by BURT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋