Or would you not...because he's gay and not ready to admit it yet. There is this guy who has been with guys who is getting married to this girl. I'm not sure if she's aware of his "bi-sexuality", but, I think he will sleep with guys on the side and he's really gay not - bi. What do you think?
2007-03-05 12:28:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes... I have dated a bisexual man in the past, and would probably do so again. It is entirely dependant on the individual. Let me fill you in a bit on my life. My best friend is Bi. He loves me, he's attracted to me. I love him. I am VERY attracted to him. We will not, however, EVER have a relationship that entails more than friendship. I am a monogamy type of person. So is he... but he is at a stage in his life where he is still very much exploring his sexuality. In all likelihood, one day he would resent me. As I said... he still has some exploring to do. Some would say this means that he doesn't really love me. I say... there are many types of love in this world, and his for me is perfect. So is mine for him. Why destroy perfection?
He is not gay... he is Bi. Who he loves is who he loves. He just has more people to choose from than a straight person or a gay person. Back to your question: I think your friends are doomed to heartbreak... sucky communication and lying about who you are to yourself and your partner has that kind of effect on things.
2007-03-05 13:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mikisew 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should butt out of other people's business.
If you're worried about this girl not knowing about his bisexuality, then by all means approach the guy and ask him if he's divulged it to her. If he hasn't, you can press him to do so, or, more risky- tell her yourself (that can cause a lot of complications). But if she knows, or once she knows, then let it be. It's their relationship.
Bisexual men are not really gay and not ready to admit it yet. Yes, some men do struggle with their sexuality and identify as bisexual only to later realize they are gay. But they are in the minority- if he feels he is bisexual, he probably is. Moreover, if he's deciding to get married, most likely he knows what he's getting himself into.
As for if he wants to sleep with guys on the side, well, know that bisexual men don't have to do that- there are lots of happy, monogamous married bisexual men. Once again, I don't think it's really your business; if his future wife knows he is bisexual, then she knows only that the rest of the population is open to him, but that's it. She can deal with it as she sees fit- hopefully by talking to him and seeing if he wants to be monogamous, and if he doesn't, if she can live with that arrangement.
Overall, I think this guy could be a wonderful bisexual man who is ready to settle down faithfully to a woman he loves. Could he be what you think he is? Certainly- but don't jump to conclusions. Bisexuality means NOTHING more than that you like both sexes.
And, to answer your original question, yes, I would love to date a bisexual guy. Being bisexual myself, I'd like to be with a man who understands how I feel and my experiences. Plus, I've noticed that bisexuals on a whole are generally kinder, more intelligent, and a heck of a lot more open-minded than most other folks. And I find male-male sexuality to be a big turn-on, so I definitely would rank a bisexual guy as more attractive to me than just a straight guy.
Hope that helps.
2007-03-05 14:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sexual orientation and secual activity are two different things. i'd date a bi guy only if he was willing to be faithful.. i'm not into this multiple partners or additional friends with benefits kinda stuff..
2007-03-05 12:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would definately date a bi guy, i think there more attractive cause they have another element to what they are like not saying that other guys dont but its a different layer
2007-03-05 23:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Allison 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i am a girl i would date that guy.
It is his preference and his life. let him life the way he wants. But he should tell about him to her before the marriage. If he does not she would come to know about it one day. That day he has to face the consequences.
2007-03-05 13:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by newsundersky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I'm bi,and I did marry a bi male. However,he did NOT tell me he was bi. I found out by accident. (Found comprimising pics of him on his pc) Turned out he was not only bi,he was also a pediphile,and molested my daughter.,HUGE MISTAKE
2007-03-05 14:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I don`t think other straight couples would be comfortable with "us" as a couple.
2007-03-05 12:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Sure I would date a Bi guy. Hey, that rymes. Lol.
2007-03-05 12:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by ~ Lillie ~ 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
i am a gay man. i totally agree with you. i do not believe in male bisexuality because to me they are just in transition to being gay.
2007-03-05 12:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Isn't having multiple sex partners a recipe for AIDS.
2007-03-05 12:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋