why my two miscarriage has the same problem?every 8 weeks my pregnancy stop and the heartbeat of the fetus?

Question

hi there, i went to my ob yesterday and they found out that my baby heartbeat stop in past few 7 weeks the cardiac activity of my baby was good. even i have this two subchorionic hemorrhage i didnt bleed. so i know my baby was doing good. yesterday i only went to my ob for regular checkup and we didnt expect theres something will surprise us which is i need to have a d&c later because of the heartbeat stop. my d&c should be yesterday after we saw the problem but my ob move it today because he still hoping that something will happen but i already lose hope i already accepted it. it hurts because i did my very best for this little life of my baby. and the most painful here this is exactly what happen to me with my first miscarriage the baby hearbeat stop at 8 weeks. i dont whats wrong with me. i need some piece of advise . will appreciate it.

Answer 1

Most doctors will not investigate very early miscarriages, like yours, unless you have 3 consecutive ones. Well, i do not see a reason why you should go through another heartbreaking experience, so get proactive. Things you want to talk to your doctor about, and you can start with your general practitioner. Progesterone levels, sugar and TSH can be checked with a simple blood test. Low progesterone levels are a well known cause of miscarriages in the first trimester. Hypo or hyper-function of the thyroid gland also can be a cause and easily corrected. Elevated blood sugar can indicate a mild PCOS. Another thing that is sometimes overlooked is antiphospholipid antibody. Genetic testing for you or for your husband can be done.
Having said the above keep in mind that the vast majority of early miscarriages happen because of some random mutation, and very unlikely to repeat itself.
Do not give up hope, most conditions can be treated!

Answer 2

I am very sorry for your loss..There may be something wrong with you and there may not be, your body may just not be ready to cary a baby yet.

You can do everything right during pregnancy and still miscarry and sometimes none can figure out why you miscarry which can be very frustrating to you.

My friend was pregnant 4 times, the first 3 times she miscarried by her 12th week, she just could not seem to carry the babies and no matter how much she ate well, how much she rested and so fourth she just could not get past 12 weeks and the doctors could not figure out why.

Last Spring my friend found out she was pregnant for the fourth time and she did not even bother to get excited because in her head she was thinking she miscarried 3 times in the past two years so she is just going to lose this baby as well and she figured it would be less heartbreaking if she chose not to get excited, she did not even tell anyone other then me about it because she was tired of people telling her they were so sorry for her loss and feeling sorry for her but time went on and she made it past 12 weeks and she now has two beautiful twin boys that were born in January , they were both born at 37 weeks and were totally healthy and went home when there mom did...She likes to think the two boys were her first 2 miscarried babies and that she lost them the first time she was pregnant with them because she was not ready to be a mom yet and said she hopes she gets her 3rd back later on in life.

Do not give your hopes up of having a baby of your own..Just keep trying and keep praying and hoping...

Answer 3

I know you are hurting. And it is okay to hurt. Let it out. I have had 2 miscarriages as well and lost both of mine at 12 weeks and 6 days both times. My babies heartbeat stopped as well. Talk to your loved ones about it and dont ever think that it isnt ok to grieve. Alot of people have many, MANY misscarriages before they actually carry full term...(that is what I tell myself anyway) I would say, give your body some time to heal from the D&C and then try again if you feel like you can. Never give up the idea of hope. Hold on to it as tight as you can, even when it looks bleak. You can IM me if you need somebody to talk to, or just a random shoulder to cry on.
-Boo

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking to expect a baby and then not get to bring it to term.
Before getting pregnant again ask your ob/gyn to refer you to a genetic specialist. Perhaps there is some hereditary factor at work here that can be avoided through genetic counseling and/or selection in the future (in-vetro fertilization and choosing healthy embryos without the genetic defect.)
Once you are over this tragic loss, perhaps you can consider these options and/or adoption. There are thousands of beautiful babies that need a caring home.
My heart goes out to you. You are in my prayers for consolation.

Answer 5

The first thing you need to know is that it IS NOT your fault. When a woman miscarries, it means that the fetus was not healthy to begin with....usually because of a chromosomal abnormality that is incompatible with life. Many many women go through what you are. Over 50% of women miscarry their first pregnancy. And many miscarry their 2nd as well. It's a normal part of life. It's a very difficult part of life, but just know you are not alone.