What do I do now??

Question

I'm getting the meanest answers when i said this on family so i decided to go to the section where i can find people who understand. ok. so im a wiccan and my parents are strict christians. if they knew i would be kicked out for life. now i also have a myspace with the wiccan sign all over it and my friends dad found it and is going to show it to my dad. he'll see the wicca stuff and go crazy. what do i do now?

thanks for all your answers they are really helping me calm down i think im going to tell them soon but im not sure let me get a few more anwers before im fully ready

i forgot to add in my last details (lol) i am under 15 so that might change a little of your answers plus i do truly believe

Answer 1

it depends on WHY you are Wiccan.
did you choose to be Wiccan to follow your heart and soul? did you choose it to scare people, curse people, get over on others?
you MUST look into yourself to answer this. for your parents are going to demand the answer to this very same question.

if you follow the Wiccan path because you are following your heart and soul.
then sit down, take a deep breath and talk to your parents about how you feel.
you know your parents, if you can talk to them sincerely and calmly, then do so. if you feel you need help, talk to someone else in your family who would be open minded that is an adult that they will listen to.
someone that can help mediate the conversation with your parents.
if you are sincerely searching for your life path and you feel the Wiccan path is your path, then you need to talk with your parents.
Part of the Wiccan path, or any of the pagan faiths for that matter, is accepting responsibility for your actions. ALL of them. Including your choice for your Faith. Even the Christian God advocates Free Will for His children. That does include you too.

If you follow the Wiccan path for any other reasons I mentioned above then you had better re-examine your intentions, and your life. For if you do ANYTHING for the other reasons mentioned above, then you have issues. and you need to talk to a responsible adult.

Now, if you are following your heart and soul, and you talk to your parents like a reasonable and logical adult. Clearly and honestly explaining your feelings and reasons for your choice of following the Wiccan path, and your Father "goes crazy" and "kicks you out for life".
Remember this ...
in his mind, he is fearing for your life and soul. Both of your parents are. That's proof that they care for you, else they wouldn't bother enough to go through the motions.

Even though, he is still FEARING. Fear due to not knowing what you have chosen. People fear what they do not understand. Explain the Wiccan path to him, reason with him.

If after all this, he still "goes crazy" and "kicks you out". Then think on this and fear not.
If you are truly following the Wiccan path, following your heart and soul, then the Goddess will not abandon you.
As one door closes, another opens.
That is the way of the Universe
Trust in this and fear not!!!
Also, you will know in your heart and mind that you took the high road. That you were acting like a responsible adult. That you did all you could to do what is right. Live free, with the knowledge that your conscious is clear in this matter.

Answer 2

You follow the rules of your parents house until you turn 18. Any proper Wiccan teacher would tell you that.
Your parents aren't going to kick you out.
Get your Wiccan crap off Myspace. My daughter is your age and Pagan- born and raised, and she doesn't have Pagan crap all over Myspace. Okay, maybe a little, but it's nothing the norms would recognize as Pagan.
You can learn now, study, and even worship quietly. You don't need praphenelia to be Wiccan. But while you are under your parents' care, you honor THEM first, and the Gods second. That is how the Gods want it. Seriously. When you are an adult and no longer under your parents' care, then you choose your own path.

Answer 3

Ok so ur under 15. I think u better hold of on telling them anything that would get u kicked out. Im 21 and my parents don't have a clue what i believe but they aren't that religious. I just don't see the need in volunteering the information bc they aren't going to understand anyway. Yep i can't find one positive thing about telling them!!! But if the question for whatever reason comes up i don't think you should ever lie about it. I think its cool that your wiccan and have chosen your own path! Good Luck..

Answer 4

are you sure that you would be kicked out? my parents threatend to kick me out for a lot of things, but they never did. they probably have their ideas of what wiccan is, but in my experience (i live in a very christain town) those ideas are often wrong. they think i am some sort of satanist, who does spells to make people miserable or for revenge but in all reality, its just the oppisite. maybe if you sat down with them and explained that you arent worshiping the devil and all that, and that the first rule of wicca is that you shouldnt do it if it is going to harm someone, they will be a bit more understanding. my mom was leary of it at first, but then i showed her that no, i am not doing this to get revenge on people, i dont want to hurt anything or anyone, and am just trying to have a better relationship with everything around me, and now she is fine with it.
and if all that doesnt work...then i really dont know. if your under 18, id call the police if it comes down to that. i know it might suck alot to get them involved, but if your under 18 there has to be some rule about them kicking you out. your a minor and you cant do a whole lot without their help, you cant get an apartment or even a hotel to spend the night at. contact a good friend who's parents might be nice enough to let you spend a couple nights there. thats about all i can think of. i wish you the VERY VERY best of luck, and i really wish people were more tolerant. people came to this country to stop people from pursecuting them for their religion, and now people are doing the same thing our ancestors left england for...ugh.

Answer 5

Looks like you have to tell your parents first yourself. Explain to them what Wicca real is and why you are following that philosophy. Use the term philosophy instead of religion. Also, since there are Christians crossovers in Wicca, be sure to discuss them as well. BUT expect your parents to react negatively. What you are trying to do is minimize that by talking to them first. You could also cool down your myspace so you can show them that you aren't a flippin' devil worshiper, assuming that you are Wicca for real.

Answer 6

I think this is the time when you test your true beliefs. Either you truly believe in your Wicca lifestyle, or you were do it for rebellion. If you truly believe, you should be able to have a mature conversation with your parents on why you believe what you do, and how it is different from their Christian beliefs.

Answer 7

now is the time in your life when you should be able to decide which path you would like to seek... listen, my parents are born again christians, and growing up with them was scary to say the least...but...you just follow who you believe yourself to be hun... what do you mean your dad will go crazy? will he physically harm you? he better not... I will send some positive energy your way....
peace and light

Answer 8

Explain to him that this is your path and you will walk as you see fit.

And that you do not worship/believe in the existence of the Devil...he is YOUR deity, not mine....

It will be okay....eventually! :)

Please e-mail me if you want to talk more.