I am beginning a serious relationship, and my partner has two daughters, ages six and seven. I am not used to dealing with children. Any advice?
2007-03-05 11:46:34 · 5 answers · asked by ray_ferrer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Spend time playing with them, don't be a parent --yet.
Develop a relationship with them and let the mother do the parenting. Then once you have a relationship, and if you move into a role of a step parent, they will respect your parenting. There really isn't a book to teach this. It's all about developing a relationship with them. Just play and have fun, laugh, and giggle, play dress up with them. Yes, curlers, hair ties, lipstick, necklaces, and they will love this. Don't however let the mother take photos, you might want to draw the line there:) You don't need that kind of evidence documeted. (Just kidding) The girls will come to enjoy your company, and respect you. Be the step parent another day.
Always talk positive about their father, even if you don't feel that way. If you put the father down, the girls might come to resent you.
2007-03-05 11:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a great age! They are so fun at that age....I would avoid books. Personally I think that books set you up for failure. I would just spend as much time with them as possible now and it should come rather easily. Take them to the park and play WITH them dont just watch them play. You need to develop a bond with them not just be a babysitter. Anything you are doing around them always try to include them as much as possible....Hope this helps!
2007-03-05 11:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kimnkicks mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to date a girl that had two girls. They were 6 and 5 I think. I used to play with them and humor them, but basically, the already have a dad, plus I was not interested in being their dad.
What I'm trying to say is don't sweat it too much. They have a dad and that's the way it is. Focus on your girl, if you really care about her!!!
Also, don't ever make a snide remark about the way she makes eggs for breakfast..you'll be making them by yourself if you do!!!
2007-03-05 11:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. I have raised three step-kids, two of them girls.
Judy Blume books are good they give insight into kids thoughts. Look for them in the "children's section" because she has also written a couple adult books.
2007-03-05 11:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really great you want to get along with her kids, you must really like this lady.
Umm, i dont know if books would work but the longer you spend around the kids, they'll get to know and like you.
2007-03-05 11:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋