not so long ago, i slept with my bestfriend and now, i don't know how to act around him...
we were drinking, just the two of us, and he was spilling his heart out to me(that was the day his girlfriend left him). and one thing led to another and...
after we did it, we didn't talk. i didn't ask what he thought or something. we didn't talk about it, at all. when i started to leave, he asked me to stay and sleep at his house... and before i left that morning, i wasn't sure what to do about it yet so i asked him to keep it just between us. and he said, yes.
after sometime, i avoided him but he was always around. he treated me just like before, like nothing happened between us. and that makes it hard for me. because i know something happened and now, i don't know how to act around him...
help me, please... i don't know what i should do. i don't want to lose my bestfriend but i don't know what he wants of our relationship. how do you solve this dilemma?
2007-03-05 11:44:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh girl i was in that same situation a couple of years ago(and now i am marrying him)!! his girlfriend left him-we were both got drunk he poured his heart out to me than we slept together- well the next day rolled around and i avoided him(even though i had some slight feelings for him at that time) and he just acted like nothing had happened! than sadly a pattern started to occur every weekend we would end up at the same party(obviusly we has majority of the same friends) and the same thing would happen again and again and again-and finally as time went by one day when he was completely sober he asked me out- i was in such shock because it only seemed as if we only comunicated when we were drunk(but both of us obviusly had feelings for each other we just couldn't express them sober)i was in a bit of releif knowing he wasn't just using one of his good friends for some action in the mean time of his lonliness! so that is what happened to me-your situation may have started like mine and i'm not saying what either of us did was a good idea in a scence but it seemed to have done us well-we've been together 4yrs now-first things first-do you like him?is that why you slept with him? i understand that it is very difficult for you when he is your best friend and he acts like nothing has happend-that may be just how most men react to that whole situation-but just think about it for a second just because him and his girlfriend are through i don't think he would have just used you for some action your his best friend- as time goes on the situation will get better-my best advise is to take one day at a time and slowly start talking to him normally or to do it when you have both are partying some where and when you start to get a buzz(not drunk-because one thing again will lead to another)and knowing he may just have a start of a buzz and go up to him and ask him about the situation and tell him how you felt about it if that is the only way you can truly communicate-not my best advise but sadly it worked for me! but all i can say is just try to somehow cumminicate with him and keep your friendship strong- hope all goes well for you!
2007-03-05 12:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by ang925 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out just what he wants out of your relationship. If he's your best friend, it's probably best that you talk to him about it. Something that big can't go by silently, because you're feeling awkward and I'm positive he must be too. Call him up and ask him to come over. Just have him go over your house to watch a movie or something. When you know no one's going to barge in, say something about it like, "So, can we talk about what happened? It's REALLY been bugging me." Since he's your best friend, chances are he'll open up to you and you can ask him anything you want about that night. Hopefully you two will come to a conclusion and get some closure on the subject. I know it's probably wicked hard to have to bring up something so awkward, but you'll never have to do it again once this one conversation is over. If you can do it once, you'll never have to do it again.
I'm sure it'll work out fine for you guys. You won't lose your best friend over this.
2007-03-05 11:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why that line should never be crossed. Since it has you need to sit down and talk to him and let him know how you feel. If he is your "best" friend he should already know that something is not right with you. Sit down explain how you feel and let him tell you how he feels. If you are truly "best" friends it will all smooth over rather quickly.
2007-03-05 11:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kimnkicks mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask him what he wants from the relationship!!
If he's your best friend that shouldn't be hard to talk about!
2007-03-05 11:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me it did not bother him and he still wants to be friends, talk to him and tell him how you feel, don't avoid him, be honest with him. and ask him how he feels about what has happened.
2007-03-05 11:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he very like you
2007-03-05 11:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋