How have you dealt with betrayal?

Answer 1

by accepting it, seeing the truth, not denying it, not blaming it on myself, had to get control over my self doubts, and feelings of hopelessness, and knowing there was no easy way out of the grief but to go through it. knew i just had to surrender it to someone else, and not focus on it. and after the crisis is over we see we are wiser, and happier than we were. but the first step is acceptance of it.

Answer 2

I suppose this will make me very unpopular, but what is the big deal about all this fidelity? Fidelity does NOT mean love in any way, shape, or form...and the reverse is true..."cheating" does not even imply that your mate does not love you. Did he/she come home? The funniest part of all this is that the cheater always feels worse than the cheatee...even if they are not found out. I used to make a big deal of it...how truely stupid...such a waste of good energy. Instead, concentrate on being happy and being in love. Look deep into that dark soul of your own and you are not going to like what you see...filled with insecurity. Your mate did NOT cause that, that is part of your baggage. So unpack, declare freedom from this bull and move forward. Good luck

Answer 3

First let me say I am so sorry that you have been hurt. I was HORRIBLY betrayed by my ex husband and thought that using revenge would give me satisfaction but i found that doing so was like me drinking poison and expecting him to get ill! So I went the opposite route and chose to forgive him for hurting me and forgive myself for sinking to low levels as well as accepting and allowing his bad treatment. Next I thought about what i learned from the relationship and the good that did come from it, like how strong it made me, how I discovered who I truly was, how someone did love and respect me enough to at least try to commit themselves to me, and I just decided to concentrate on those positive things that came out of that exchange. Baby nobody wants to hear it but time is the biggest healer---we want to stop hurting now! I just prayed to God every time I felt down and everyday the pain became less. Now i am in a Loving relationship with a man i always wanted. that would have never happened if My ex husband hadn't betrayed me. Get It?

Answer 4

It's a work in progress and there's no quick fix. Yes, I've been suspicious, angry, paranoid, and filled with rage. I've seen red and tasted blood. I've lost weight and sleep. I have good days and bad days. But we're both working on it. We have to be patient. We are trying to make each other more of a priority in our life together and learn from this horrible experience. It's not easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is.

Answer 5

I have a tendency to put others on pedastools, and you slowly knock yourself down by the rungs, so it takes a lot for me to feel betrayed, but once I am betrayed, and you've hit that bottom rung, I usually don't speak to the person again. Which can hurt my feelings, because I do like to give people chances, but to continually betray me and you reach that last rung, it's done.

Answer 6

Yes I sure have a few times and it did not feel good at all. I dont wish this on anyone. However onnce you deal with and learn from it you think twice about who you trust again. Basically you learn from your mistakes.

Answer 7

Learn from the experience (were there red flags I ignored?), forgive them, forgive myself for trusting them when I saw red flags but chose to ignore them, and finally move on.

Answer 8

My way of thinking has caused me to look into the mirror of truth. Regret caused me to look back, worry, caused me to look around, But my faith now, keeps me looking up to bigger and better things.

Answer 9

Yes...and it's not pretty...it's a horrible experience.
But I came through it...he is the one that's going down.

Answer 10

walk away and never give that person a chance to betray you again