My Sister in Law and her partner are expecting. She's due in 4 months. They are not married. Her partner (who is American, she is Australian) has been asking some rather strange questions as of late. One question in particular we don't know how to take. He asked how old the child has to be before it can be taken away from it's mother.
We would have thought that he means 'how old does the child have to be before we can get a babysitter and go out' but you would think that he would phrase the question this way. My mother in law is now worried that he is planning to break up with my sister in law and take their child with him. They don't appear to be having any problems, but in line with the other strange questions he has been asking, we don't know what to think. What do others think?
2007-03-05 11:31:36 · 16 answers · asked by Moneta 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he may be asking about babysitting ..
or worst case scenerio...if a break up happens. If I were you, I would question him directly as to what he meant, but being honest, I think he was talking about babysitting..
Hint, tell mom that she needs to get his Social security number. this way, should anything happen, she can always find him in America..
2007-03-05 11:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by susan q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy realizes that the two of you gossip about him so much, he might just be asking the right questions. Especially since they are not married. He's American and she can take off for home whenever she feels like it. He might really be feeling that he should not trust her or her extended family totally. If I were you, though, I'd mind my own business or you could get implicated in a heavy legal wrangle in future and named as an accomplice. You say they don't appear to be having problems so why are you adding fuel to your mother-in-law's obvious "fire". There is nothing better than truth so stop theorizing and start being more upfront. If the woman is truly concerned, she'll ask you for help. Your gossip doesn't help matters.
2007-03-05 11:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men lose their minds when approaching fatherhood. You should rephrase that to "Has anyone not had trouble with fathers to be?" I'd not trust him with the baby if this is the kind of things he's saying. He might just be trying to mess with your heads. Is the mother-to-be worried? She would be the one to know but really if that is what is in there head you really can't keep them from the child until they've done something and then you have to hire a hit man to get it back. Aussie and American courts are friendly enough that they would cooperate. Not like men taking their kids to mid-eastern countries. I don't think you should be bringing this up to the little mommy if she is not talking to you about it. Being preggers is stress enough. It could cause her to birth early. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-03-05 11:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very suspicious.
As for everyone going on about having a child out of wedlock, open your freakin eyes. This is the 21st century and nothing to be ashamed of.. I would ask this man straight out what he meant. If you continue to get strange questions, definately do not put his name on the birth certificate, if things work out this can be changed again later. Good luck.
2007-03-05 14:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by han83b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 06:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't like the idea that his grandchild is going to be brought up by a set of parents that aren't married. Perhaps he carries more values than his daughter does.
2007-03-05 11:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by McyD2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would interpret that question to mean, "how long before the baby stops brest feeding and can be away from its mother". I wouldn't jump to conclusions about what he meant, just ask him what he meant by that question. He probably just worded it wrong.
2007-03-05 11:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
rathaer a starange qustion and it would give cause for concern. If this the case do not put his name on the birth certificate- then see what happens.
2007-03-05 11:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch. yeah, i would watch it if i was here. those questions are very high alert. she should have told him, not till the child is 18.
2007-03-05 12:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do I think? I think that she should have gotten married before getting pregnant in the first place.
2007-03-05 11:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by neoimperialistxxi 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋