I'm 24 years old, and i have a 4 year old boy. Ive been a single mom the whole time with alot of support from my family. My sons father is no good and now lives in another province thank GOD! I`ve been with my current boyfriend 8 mons, and we`ve never used protection (I know stupid on my part) I wanted another baby so badly don`t ask me why I can`t explain. Well now im late and I`ve got all the symptoms and i pretty much 100% sure im pregnant. So i told my boyfriend who at the time said yeh it may be your only chance to have another baby. well we talked again today and he says now we should have an abortion. Ive had an abortion and i dont want to have another one. Im sure I can raise a baby by myself and i dont think he would leave me but my family I know will be pissed off. Im scared and i feel alone and i dont know what i should do! Please help me!
2007-03-05 11:16:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you don't want an abortion, don't get one. You need to stick up for yourself and your baby. Just flat out tell him 1. He's going to be a father 2. You ARE NOT going to kill your baby. 3. If he doesn't want to stick around, that's fine but you are having this baby with or without him.
Don't let anyone bully you into doing something that you don't want. If you talk to him a little more, it could just be that he's becoming scared. Maybe he just needs to talk to someone about it, if he will. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-05 11:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its kind of funny no matter how much you plan you will experience these feelings. First you shouldnt have got pregnant again because you still get a lot of assistance from your family? Is that what I am to understand. You should first learn to take care of yourself and your son before adding more responsibility. Second what your boyfriend and you are feelings is normal. Although I wouldnt personally get an abortion doesnt mean that I think you shouldnt do it at all. Everyone has their own situations going on. If you do decide that it would be best not to have a child now then you need to get on some birth control first and start putting your life together without the support of your family or a boyfriend. Start trying to rely on yourself as best you can. Go get a better degree and start to support yourself and your son before entering a relationship and especially before the baby. If you decide that isnt right for you then start trying to put your life together just as I said before get a better college degree. Nothing is out of reach especially when you are surrounded by people who want to help you. I know how you feel about the family thing but family is funny as angry as they may react they still love your baby regardless.
2007-03-05 19:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by hmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the first thing to do is make sure you are pregnant. Next thing is decide if you want to spend your life with a man who treats your emotions or his unborn child with such little regrard. If you think you can raise a baby alone and don't want to have an abortion don't do it! Your family will come along they may not be happy about it at first but more than likely they will come around.
2007-03-05 19:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by got all I need 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You already know you can and should keep your baby. No one should pressure you into killing your unborn child, not even the father. You have every right to have this baby, even without the support of your loved ones. Heck, I'm married and our families still flipped out when we got pregnant. It was absolute hell for us, but we stood by eachother and for our daughter. She just turned 2 today, and she is the best thing that has ever happened to us. Your baby does not have a voice. You have to stand up for him/her. I'm sure your baby would rather be alive and at least have YOU, than dead and have no one.
2007-03-05 19:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want an abortion, then dont have one! Dont let some guy make you give up a life! Men dont seem to always have as strong as a connection with the child, he could be scared too. I think that your family may be upset at first, but then be happy about it later. My advise it to do what YOU want to do.
2007-03-05 19:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Catlin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know u mean im 20 and a single mom my lil one will be 4 in may u need to do what will make u happy make sure he will be the right guy to be a dad is he good with ur son will good luck and keep ur head up
2007-03-05 19:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by babydoll694617192002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE!!! DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!!! DO NOT! DO NOT! DO NOT! THAT IS SO HORRIBLE!...KILLING A LIFE THAT NEVER EVEN GOT A CHANCE TO LIVE! WHAT IS HE THINKING! THAT *******! JUST NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO...DO NOT! GET AN ABORTION.....IF HE LEAVES YOU...THEN HE IS A WORTHLESS PIECE OF S-H-I-T AND HAS NO RESPOSIBILITY FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS AND YOU DON'T NEED TO BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-05 19:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by *Gina* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sticking with the guy longer than 8 months before you decide to pull down your pants or have a baby. Dumb mistake.
2007-03-05 19:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
abortion is not birthcontrol.
2007-03-05 19:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by EMT_B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋