The other day I was spending the night at my friends house and we were just sitting there and all of a sudden she told me she was bi. i was just calmly like...okay. so from then on she has been calling me every two seconds and i dont want to answer. what do i do?
2007-03-05 10:40:50 · 25 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give bi a try...
2007-03-05 10:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ywon't u answer? maybe she's calling because she's ur friend and now that she has told u something so big she may now think that ur not her friend anymore. U said u thinlk she may like u (may she does) but not the way u think, she knows ur not bi so y would she come at u like that?
If ur her real friend u shouldn't treat her like this, when she told u she was bi and u said ok Im sure she thought u meant it was ok and that u didn't care because u still want to be her friend. But now she's wondering if that was a good idea to tell u because now u won't answer her calls. May be u should the next call ( if she calls again) and talk with her about it tell her that u thought that u was ok with her being bi but it didn't really hit u until later and that ur sorry that u don't answer her calls because u didn't know how to handle what she told u. But u still would like to be friends with her and state to her that ur into guys and want her to respect that as u respect that she's bi
2007-03-05 16:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the first person she has told this too, odds are she just needs someone to talk too. She is going through a lot of personal troubles right now because she has come to the realization that she does like women too. As a guy who is bi-sexual as well, I know that that can be a very difficult thing to go through by yourself. If she does like you in that way and you don't have the same feelings back towards her, just calmly tell her how you feel. You don't want to hurt her feelings because looks at you like a friend as she told you her "secret". The best thing is just to talk to her.
2007-03-05 10:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lord Draven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that she is simply looking for affirmation and help. Maybe you're the only person she's told. Think of the stress that must be for her! It could be she's looking to you for emotional support because she trusts you.
It is important for you to set up boundaries--soon. Tell her that you respect her and are honored that she shared that with you, but that you need space, both to process what she has said and so that the two of you don't end up with a smothered relationship. Any friendship needs space if it is going to be healthy. Share that with her.
If things continue, and she expresses interest in you, stand strong and say honestly that you're not interested--just like you would with a guy friend.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 10:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kyeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhhhhhh this is one of the big friendship killers if i've ever seen one. it is possible she is just calling to make sure you didn't get the wrong idea about what she meant. or she could dig you and is trying to get a relationship going. are you positive your not bi? because if she's a good friend it could be an oppurtunity to experiment with that kind of relationship. but if not then i recommend that you talk to her, CLEARLY explain that you just see her as a friend, and would rather keep as friends. if she freaks out, then she wasn't interested in you she just was interested in what you could give her. if its a real friendship, she may be sad, but you two should be ok. however i insist you talk to her a.s.a.p. the longer you wait the more stress you add to her and yourself. i hope everything turns out well : D just remember, no fear, and pain is temporary.
2007-03-05 10:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just calling you every 2 seconds because she's glad that you handled the situation so well, and she feels like your relationship has more intimacy now. Maybe she was cautious about telling you in the first place, buecause she didn't think that you'd take it well, but then you did, and just absolutely wowed her with what a great friend you were. Just an idea! :-)
2007-03-05 10:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just feel nervous because she shared a secret with you and is unsure as to what you are going to say to others that she may know she may also worry that by telling you she has lost you as a friend.Just explain to her she is your friend and you respect her own personal choices, but you are not bi and you will not share her secret with others that is hers to tell if she so chooses.This may take any preasure off her mind and she may not call so much because she is not so worried.
2007-03-05 10:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the thought of being gay frighten you, or have you wondered what it might be like, or are you capable of just seeing this person as a close friend and have her understand the limits and boundaries of your frienship?
The only way to find out is to talk about it with her.
2007-03-05 10:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not run from her, let her know that you are not interested at all about girls, and that you want to be her friend and nothing else. Good luck but just don't run from her or her calls. Put an end to it for once and forever.
2007-03-05 10:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still your friend.Don't get offended unless she actually makes a pass towards you.If she's your friend she knows that you're not that way and she should'nt cross the line.Don't trip and no need to say anything to her unless she makes a pass.
2007-03-05 10:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might like you- or she might feel attached knowing that you know about her and is ok about it. Its a sense of acceptance. If it turns out that she does like yoiu- be the good friend that you are and explain how you feel- that you are hetersexual, you respect her and value your friendship with her more than anything. Any female will understand.
2007-03-05 10:46:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋