I know this guy named Will Gilmore (the only reason why I am using his name is just incase he ever reads this, though unlikely) and I think I have been in love with him for the past year. we met at the begaining of the year and i though he was the biggest freshman ever, but he was a junior. we had great chemistry, at least that is what i though, but now we really don't see each other. the only problem is that i am gay and i don't know if he is. How do i know he he would ever feel the same? i just need to know or else he will be the "what if guy" in my life that i will always think about.
2007-03-05 10:32:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
he has had a girlfriend, but out of my own experience that doesn't mean any thing. he is older than me and leaving for college at the end of the year, and i just don't know that if something did happen if it would last. i haven't really even came out to my friends so it makes everything harder if i want to tell him i love him but i'm not out of the closet.
2007-03-05 11:04:39 · update #1
The best thing to do is to talk him but make sure to talk to him at the right time (when your ready) don't rush to it as this may affect what your going to say to him. Don't get your hopes up as there plenty of more fish in the sea.
I'm gay and have been in the same situation as you but it didn't work out. Good Luck To Ya Mate.
2007-03-05 23:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Rory F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh if he isn't, better carry a face mask, mouth-piece and some mase around, it could get ugly lol.
i'd say become his friend, ask him out for lunch or something, find out what he like doing, HANG OUT already. slowly but surely a friendship might come through and you may feel comfortable enough to reavel your sexuality provided you haven't found out his sexuality already.
make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend first or all this work trying to find out stats and detail about is favorite NFL team will be your wasted time.
if he's leaving for college at the end of the year, you have at least 6-8 months to play with, get off you seat, and hang out with him. you know talk to him, tell him things you'd tell friends, build a relationship. just because someone is going off to college doesn't end a relationship, in fact isn't it time you started finding out about potential college...?? (*get my drift?*)
2007-03-05 18:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by puzzlite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with the above answers. Write to him or tell him how you feel. If you don't see each other too often anymore and he doesn't feel the same and rejects you, you haven't lost anything and he will no longer be the 'what if guy'.
Be aware though that he may not appreciate that you have romantic feelings for him but like I said, you have lost nothing.
2007-03-05 18:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by JOHN P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows your gay and he didn't make a move on you, 1) he don't like you, like that 2) he not gay. And if you never told him, but you act gay and the whole world knows your gay, he knows. So leave it as the "what if guy" and am sure your going to have a lot of "what if guys" in your life.
2007-03-05 18:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only certain way to know whether he feels as you do is to ask him. If you can't talk with him, write him a letter. He will appreciate your honesty.
2007-03-05 18:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by barrych209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Ask him. Thats the only way to know.
2007-03-05 18:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has a lisp or long chin then he is gay
2007-03-05 18:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋