Do I trust my husaband again?

Question

I moved from my home state to be with my husband and he cheated on me, so I moved back to my home state, he came two months later to get me. He wants me to move back with him, out of state, he says he wont do it again. Our relationship is going good right now, but I still don't trust him.

Answer 1

It will take awhile to trust again. You can't be expected to have the same feelings of trust that you had before.~~
As Dr. Phil says,your husband will have to earn that trust back.~
I hope that he will remain faithful this time, prove himself worthy of your love. Don't throw it in his face unless he does it again.

I to was cheated on early in my marriage, we got back together, he said I would never be sorry.
We were military and I did feel much easier when we transferred out of that area after 2 yrs..
To make a long story short. I have never been sorry. I am married today to a christian man that I thank God for every day. He is my everything.We have 5 grown happily married children and we have been wed 54 years. We are so grateful for life.~~
Good luck to you honey, and~~~~~~~~~~~
God Bless you for giving your marriage a second chance.~~Jill

Answer 2

Only you can truly answer this question. What you feel deep inside should be your guide to answering this. A marriage is tough enough nowadays but without trust or with mistrust, things just got a whole lot more difficult and can you really live with that. Chances are hes probably telling you the truth right now about being faithful, but what happens when the same scenerio presents itself again, then what happens. Theres no guarantee that this was a one-time thing and will never happen again, but if we never take a chance and believe in someone or something, we quit living. Theres always the other foot thing too, that he has no guarantee that you would never cheat if the perfect opportunity came along. So it comes down to you as youre the one who has to live with him and the memories, and its not easy. Good luck

Answer 3

There are two things that are needed to make a good marriage, one is respect and the other is trust. Since he cheated on you the trust is gone. If you really stop and think so is the respect. He doesn't respect you as a person and most of all as his wife if he couldn't keep it in his pants and only bring it out for you. You can do better and you deserve better. Let him go back to where he came from and you find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Good luck.

Answer 4

And I doubt that you will ever be able to trust him....trust is something that one has to earn....and he blew it......can you be together even though you don't trust him, of course, but you will always wonder....and this is not exactly a bad thing either, it makes you very cautious, and keeps you from being naive. If the relationship is good give it a try. But make sure that he knows that you will only be pi**ed on 1 time. If he does cheat again, make sure that you stay long enough to get proof, and document everything. this way you will have all that you need when you see the lawyer....and you can also try to sue whom ever with alienation of affection....the other women usually will drop em like a hot potato....when they have been threatened to lose financially as well.

Best of luck to you

Answer 5

If you don't trust him the answer is NO! You uprooted yourself once for him, and I wouldn't do it again, not till you have alot more time under your belt, and get to where you do trust him, but that would take a long time for me. I have been there before, not relocating, just the cheating and the trust issues. I would stay right where I'm at and if he really loves you he will stay where ever you are!

Answer 6

I say once a cheat, always a cheat. He may say he is sorry, but if he wouldn't have done it in the first place he wouldn't be apologizing for it. He had control over the situation if he wanted to cheat or if he didn't. Temptation got the best of him, now let him suffer the consequences because in the long run, YOU will be the one hurt, not him.

Answer 7

Trust once broken it very hard to get back. If you take him back please get marriage counseling. Work on the problem that lead to his cheating. Just because you were cheated on doesn't mean that your not part of the problem, it takes two. Not that it makes cheating right.

In trying to repair a marriage they're can't be one who right or one who's wrong because that means someones a loser. It can't work.

It will take a lot of work but if your both determined you can get this behind you and come out stronger.

Good Luck

Answer 8

Stay with your gut instinct, A leopard don't change it's spots. Has he went to counseling, on his own? NO, then ow hard has he tried to prove he's changed?
I'm assuming you have a support network where you are living, speaking as part of a support network myself, you'll only go to that well so many times b/4 it dries up.
Most ppl. will try to help you, but if you keep going back, they may not be there one day.

Hope this helps, email me if you need too

Answer 9

You want to be with him or you would not be on here.
You are being takin advantage of because you are a sweet kind loving good person...aren't you.
You will have to do something out of your character to shock him.

Like MAKE him PROVE to you he has changed..put him through the hell of going to a councilor faithfully...without any excuses

and if he makes it..maybe you have a chance, it's your move...put the ball in his court and see which move he makes then.

Answer 10

First ask yourself if he is really sorry? And is he sorry cause he hurt you? or is he sorry cause he got caught? or is he sorry cause now he doesn't have to feel guilty keeping something from you?. Do you truly believe he wont do it again?

If you can forgive him and forget about this eventually then go right ahead and be with your husband in the state you once were.

Good Luck to you and him