would you rather be feared or loved?

Question

a character in a movie said he would rather be feared than loved. that's why i asked.

Answer 1

Loved. Where there is fear, there is no love. There's enough fear in the world.

Answer 2

I have always preferred to be loved than feared although I was always perceived the other way around. I needed someone to love me and to accept me as me, to help me find my way back, and to be me. I am loved rather than feared now because there is more of me to let out. Although there is nothing wrong with either one - being loved or being feared. Many people think that if their loved, their seen as soft and not strong but love allows you to be soft and strong; love gives a person strength and offers you nurturing you may need at times. People think that if you're feared, there's something you're hiding & protecting and your guard is always up and both these things are true. There's something you need to protect; a person needs to protect the pain their mistakes or someone else's mistakes have made in your life and you need to keep your guard up so people wouldn't see you in the wrong light. I'd say I'm both and this is just who I am and I like it like that.

Answer 3

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 4

well i can see his reasoning. i mean if everyone fears you then your emotions are in no danger of getting hurt. but love is very power full its a great feeling, the down side is it doesn't always last and it does leave you open to emotional pain and vulnerability. i would rather be loved.

Answer 5

I would rather be loved. Being feared is lonely.

Answer 6

Am I God? Should I be feared? No, ,I'd much rather be loved.

Answer 7

if you only saw this in a movie you need to read more.
it is, of course for a leader, best to be feared and loved but when you must chose it is better to be feared.

Answer 8

Loved,because if youre feared you may stand alone.

Answer 9

Loved. Love invites people to be themselves with you. Fear tells people to watch out for themselves around you.

Answer 10

I'd rather be loved. It is very difficult-nigh impossible-to thrive in life without love.