What do you do if your friend is cutting himself and won't tell you whats wrong?

Question

help I'm completely clueless

Answer 1

Well, OK. i cut myself to and i HATE it when ppl say i need help. So just tell ur friend that ur their for him nad he can completly trust you. tell him no matter what it is you'll still be bff. It wont change how you think of him. well good luck.

Answer 2

Most people who "cut" themselves are people with physiological problems. It's a way for them to cry out for help, punish themselves, seek attention, etc.

The best you can do is try to convince them to seek professional help. If they refuse, you could anonymously call the police who will check into the matter. If there are actual marks, they should place them in protective custody (to prevent them from harming themselves further) and the person will have to at least be mentally evaluated before being released. If the mental health person feels they are suicidal, they will be admitted, often voluntarily. If they don't feel they're suicidal, but believe they need counseling, they'll set up an appointment; which has to be kept. A forced counseling.

The only problem that arises is if your the only one your friend is telling, then he'd figure out your the one who told on him. But quite honestly, if you don't, he could end up mistakenly taking his own life and then how would you feel?

Call the police.

Answer 3

Tell his family! If he is cutting himself than he is obviously emotionally unstable right now and HE NEEDS TO TALK TO SOMEONE!!!! People cut themselves in hopes to dull the emotional pain that they are feeling. THey hope that the physical pain that they feel when they cut themselves will make them forget about the overwhelming troubles that they are experiancing in there lives. But this is not an acceptable way to deal with pain and he needs to know that! Cutting is dangerous and he may accidentally cut too deep. I commend you in your efforts to help your frioend but I think he is beyond your help right now. He needs to sit down with a professional and sort this out. In the phone book there are suicide and teen help lines that you can contact regarding this matter. Also remember to tell either a guidance counselor or teacher you trust(if you go to school) or his family. And if you are indeed in school- I would go first to his guidance counselor before anything else only because maybe the reason why he is upset is because of his parents. You dont know because he wont tell you. But know this, If he is exibiting self destructive behavior such as cutting- it is officially out of your hands. So:
1. Teen help line/ suicide help line (in your local phone book)
2. Guidance counselor/ teacher
3. Parents
4. POLICE (If you think he is going to truly harm himself)

Answer 4

Your friend is cutting to try to ease the pain he is feeling inside himself. Please, tell him you are willing to just sit and listen to what is going on that hurts so badly inside. And, that you will keep it confidential. Or, you may want to suggest to your friend that it would be good to go to a counselor, that would be someone he could talk with, get the hurt out, etc. Might consider anti depressant as well. to help until things get better for him. I wish you both the best. Take care

Answer 5

Be there for him* Try to talk to him , let him know you want to Understand what's causing him so much pain...advise him he needs to speak to someone to help deal with his pain rather than saying nothing at all.
You can't do too much other than let an adult know so they can get him the help he needs right now*
Apparently he doesn't know how else to cope with whatever it is he's dealing with right now....so he "releases his pain" by watching himself bleed. They begin to feel Numb* No emotions or feelings ....severe depression* It could lead to suicide depending on how depressed he is* Get him some help* Best of Luck*
You can talk with him and take him to emerg..they have ppl on hand to talk with him and find out what's troubling him somuch that he's not feeling anymore*~ What crisis* has happened to be feeling this way*~

Answer 6

I am a Mental Health Professional. It sounds like your friend has borderline personality disorder. It is rare that a male would have this disorder however, it happens. I suggest that you speak with him about seeking help. Refer him to a community service board for an assessment. They would also have a sliding fee scale (based on ability to pay).

The cutting is an attempt to relieve emotional pain. Speaking with a professional to face unresolved anger, etc. is greatly beneficial.

Answer 7

tell the parents so they can get counseling!!! The same situation happened with my friend and she is doing sooo much better with a therapist. trust me you wont regret it! You might think youre being a good friend by not telling because they asked you not to, but youre wrong! Youre a horrible friend for sitting by and watching it happen.

Answer 8

You definitly need to do something! Tell his parents so they can get him help before it's too late! cutting yourself is for sure a "sign" that something serious is wrong! Good Luck!! I hope everything turns out O.K.

Answer 9

Try everything possible to get him to talk about it! Tell his parents too because he definitely needs to let out whatever is bothering him before he seriously hurts himself or others.

Answer 10

Let him know that you care about him so deeply that when he hurts himself it hurts you too. Let him know that you are there for him if he ever wants to talk. As long as he knows that he can trust you, he will eventually open up