2007-03-05 10:21:38 · 16 answers · asked by Niki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After my last break up I waited a year to really start dating again. I flirted sure and went on an informal date here and there but I kept everything casual (1st base kind of stuff no sex!) It turns out that wait was really good for me because I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted in a relationship. I also had fun just being a single female and going out with friends. After that year I ended up meeting my husband, it's been five years and we have been going strong ever since.
2007-03-05 11:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself as long as you need to. There is no need in rushing into another relationship and carrying all the baggage and hurt from the first relationship into it. The new guy will feel like you are still hung up on the first bf and not like you or decide you might be a psycho. I am in a relationship right now that I have been in for 5 yrs and if we broke up I would not date at least for 6 months to a year to give me time for myself, my daughter and to figure out what I really want in life and in the next relationship. Your heart body and mind will let you know if it is ready to start loving or liking someone new.
2007-03-05 10:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
However long you really need is however long you should take. After a six year relationship ended, I waited about a year to start dating again, and it was a really good and healthy thing fo rme. I took some time to grieve the loss of the relationship-I'd entered that relationship at 20, while I was still in college, and ended it after having finished college and graduate school, and living together, and adopting a cat, and so on. I took time to get to know who I was and how I'd changed since I'd last been single, and to think about what I'd learned from the relationship-what I liked and didn't like, what qualities I wanted to look for in a new partner. I took the time to be happy with me before I wanted to be with someone else. I began dating again about a year after that relationship ended, dated someone for a few months, but broke it off because it wasn't working, and about six or seven months after that, began dating my husband (we'd met about six years earlier and had been friends for a few years when we were both involved with other people) and eventually got married.
Don't feel rushed or pressured into dating. Take your time, it's a good thing to get to know yourself again, to grieve and enjoy and figure out what you want.
2007-03-05 11:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Erika G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have the wrong idea of getting out of relationship that has been long term. They think that as long as the relationship last is the amount of time they have to take in getting over their lost love. Why? Only God knows that answer to that!
Baby my answer to your question is when your heart feels as though it is ready to get back out there I would say fly like the wind. Have fun and don't get tied down too quickly. Enjoy single life not detest it embrace your freedom and revel in it. Now there would be a time when you feel for romance and when you fee as though you could love, trust, compromise and make choices that doesn't revolve around your ex then you are ready. You would be ready for the full blast of dating again.
One more thing don't let this past relationship be one of your regrets in life as a matter of fact don't make anything a regret just put it up to experience and a lesson learned.
Good luck with your relationship.
2007-03-05 10:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at least six months so it is not just a rebound thing as you need to heal and get over what has happened in the past with this last relationship. Relationships on the rebound usually do not last or work out. Good luck to you. Take your time and dont rush or push yourself. you need time to heal....
2007-03-05 11:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you. After one of my break ups (4 years) I was a basket case for 2 years. My next break up (8 years) I had the time of my life going out with friends and dating a wide variety of girls. I think its mostly how much you were emotionally attached to him or her. Enjoy your life, you only live once!
2007-03-05 10:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wise to be thinking this way. You are going to be very vulnerable and subject to hooking up with the first person to come along. In this state of mind decide to be a bit of recluse. Bad enough to lose an old relationship without finding a new one.
2007-03-05 10:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will know when the time will come. I know what it is like to come out of a long time relationship, but trust me you will be ok very soon and be able to date again. But just give yourself ome time. Good luck
2007-03-05 10:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really only you can answer that question.
But I would say to enjoy the time of having no one to worry about except you. Nurture yourself enjoy time with your friends. Contemplate what when wrong in your 7 year relationship. Ask yourself what you did to contribute to its demise.
Love yourself have fun, I hope your OK.
Good Luck
2007-03-05 10:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by cream city chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes you to get rid of the baggage that came with the old relationship. Take it nice and easy.
2007-03-05 10:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tip Top 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋