Just found out?

Question

I just found out three days ago that i'm going to have a baby..And the baby's daddy doesnt seem to sure of this baby..I had a misscarage about two years ago and i'm so scared of the same thing happening this time...Is it normal to one moment be so scared and not want to have the baby and the next moment you get excited..its all so confusing to me..and its like i have so many qestions that i want to know..I think why i lost the baby last time was because of stress and this time i just need to find ways not to stress how do i do that because there is so many things you worry about..baby being healthy,you being ready,everything turning out ok,i mean 1 in a million things you worry about..I just could use all the advice i could get..I'm scared and help would be much appricated thank you~

Answer 1

Hey sweetie after a miscarriage it is perfectly normal to feel that way,and you are right you need to stop stressing.It is not good for you or the baby,Try thinking happy thoughts when doubts and fear slip in.Switch on the tv and find an interesting movie,or fix you a nice cup of hot tea and grab a book and read,take a nice little walk,or cook you a nice snack.Listen to music to relax you that is also good,hope this helps and best wishes,But i think you'll be fine this time around,good luck

Answer 2

Sweetheat, take a deep breath and let it out. I just found out I was pregnant 3 days ago--today is Monday and I found out Friday. And I've been bouncing around like a rubber ball since then. I can totally relate. One minute, I'm very excited about having another baby, and then the next minute I'm worried that I won't be able to handle having 3 children. Every pregnancy has it's problems, and it's normal to worry. Just relax, and realize that you will do just fine. If the dad is not sure, don't let him get to you. You are in an emotional state right now, and you don't need anything upsetting you more.

When you are extremely stressed or upset, then it affects your baby. So tell the dad to leave you alone until he's ready to take responsibility for you and the child you are bearing. You don't need him causing you extra drama. You just need to focus on keeping yourself healthy so you can have your beautiful child. Congratulations!

Answer 3

First off let me say I'm very sorry for your loss two years ago. But keep in mind that some times bad things just happen but that doesn't mean that it will happen again.

Did your doctor say anything to you about a condition that may lead them to believe that you'd have trouble bearing children?

Most likely...Everything will be ok.

Things have a way of working themselves out.

Dont stress on things you can't change.

Don't be scared of having a baby...you have never known love until you see you're baby's beautiful face looking up at you. You will love that baby so much you won't even think it was possible to love someone so much

Don't even worry...none of us are EVER ready...even if we think we're ready...it's alot of hard work...but you can totally do it...and it's soooooo worth it.

I can't even put into words how wonderful the whole process is. EVEN the midnight feedings! And the first shots. And the poopy diapers...All of it is a blessing and a labor of love and you so won't regret it.

Try not to worry about things you can't change...just do everything you can to prevent things you can...like eat right, drink lots of water, take your prenatal vitamins, go to your doctors appoinments...trust me...everything will be just fine if you just relax.

Answer 4

I feel everything happens for a reason. We all get scared when we are going to have a baby.I had 4 each time I was scared. Not knowing if they are healthy or not. You would love the baby no matter what happens. They are a gift from god we are to love them no matter what. Im sure everything will be okay

Answer 5

It is perfectly normal to be scared, and for your feelings to change quite a bit- we all go through it! Try and make a doctor appointment as soon as you can- I had mine at 8 weeks and it made me feel a little more secure with things, even though all I saw on the ultrasound was a blob! But, some docs won't see you until 12 weeks or so, but with your history you might be able to get in sooner! Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

Yes, it's perfectly normal to go from feeling excited to overwhelmed to questioning everything. And you did not miscarry due to stress....women miscarry because there is something wrong with the embryo, not because of outside factors or feelings they have about things. We all worry when we get pregnant, but things work out the way they are supposed to.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Its extremely normal I am married and pregnant with my second before we had planned and I had thoughts early on that I wasnt ready for this i have a 19 month old girl and am raising my 5 yr old step daughter and I love my girls but I am nervous about a third all moms to be have doubts and worries now I worry about him (i hope hehe) being healthy and happy and all those things trust me it will pass just relax.

Answer 8

You will be fine, it is very normal to have mixed emotions about becoming a parent and it can be complicated by a previous miscarriage. Find a support group (not like AA but a group of people who can help) and spend time with them as much as possible. They will be able to help you not stress out.

Answer 9

Of course it's normal!! Your boyfriend isn't being as supportive as he could be, and a miscarriage is always a posbbility.

First thing you need to do is to NOT STRESS! It's hard to do, but you HAVE to stop stressing about it.

Right now you're pregnant. Congrats! However, you need to relax and stop running those scenarios through your head.

Answer 10

Geez girl, you need to BREATHE! In, out...slowly. Miscarriages happen all the time for whatever reason and we're usually not privy as to why. Go get some books on pregnancy, make some tea and *relax*. I'll pray for you and your baby.