has anyone ever had a threesome with their spouse and another person? if so how did you feel afterwards? did you feel like you were being ignored? he wants to and i want to please him but am worried about the after effects...........please help.
2007-03-05 09:30:00 · 27 answers · asked by live, love, laugh often! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The after effects can be potentially devastating to a relationship. You could be opening Pandora's Box. Sometimes it's best to let fantasies remain in fantasyland.
I'm not going to say it always ends badly, but you'd be taking a huge risk.
2007-03-05 09:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Please hubby????? Well, it's your marriage. But, bear in mind that once it happens- it can't unhappen. What if it really turns YOU on, but hubby decides he hated it? What if you hated it, but hubby loved it, and wanted more get-togethers; and perhaps was inspired to suggest even more elaborate or unusual ideas for you to satisfy. There are so many bad possibilities from adding extra people to your marriage, that it's hard to understand why couples would try this stuff. Have you considered them? What if the extra person falls in love? What if they brag? What if the extra's spouse finds out, and you end up dragged into court? That would make it nice for your kids in school. STD's are always possible. So, go ahead, but think long and hard first.
2007-03-05 10:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The entire point of marriage is that it's EXCLUSIVE! How can you have a marriage and have a thresome at the same time? It's no longer exclusive! Dumb, dumb, dumb idea. And even dumber if you are only doing it to make him happy. You and you ALONE should be more then enough! That's just his way of saying, "I fantasize about other women meeting my sexual needs, but don't worry honey! We'll find a place to fit you in!" Give me a break! Know what you deserve and dont settle for anything less!
2007-03-05 10:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure it would be exciting on some level. But in that situation someone is bound to be hurt. Don't do it because he wants you to. Only do it if you feel comfortable with it. This is a decision only you can make. I'm sure there are other things that would make him happy. Try to do some role playing during sex, this should distract him from asking for a threesome.
2007-03-05 09:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by ANGIE 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just put it this way. I am married to my husband now for almost 6 yrs. I love him with all my heart. I'll do almost anything for him. Beside share him with another woman or even man. That's out of the question. Everybody has a fantasy of his and her own. But bring another person into our bed room just to please him...No, I can't do that. Yes, afterward. I might start to have all of though crazy thought in my head...lead to doubt. Would he do that again with that person when I am not there?
2007-03-05 09:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lilian 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You must be kidding? You think you'd even consider doing this to please him? A marriage is based on love and caring for just one person you're committed to. If he keeps suggesting this he evidently doesn't think you are enough for him or he doesn't think he can satisfy you(if you're talking about another man). I can promise you one thing - the after effects would be that if you'd do this he could get you to do anything! What's next selling your body on the street corner for extra grocery money? Step back and read about what marriage is supposed to be before you decide to do something as crazy as this. There are many books written on how to have a long and happy marriage and I don't think you'll find one instance like you described in them.
2007-03-05 09:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is never a good idea to bring a third person into a marriage. If you believe in monogamy, you will end up doing more damage than anything to your relationship.
2007-03-05 09:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by QT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You both have to really want it! If he's thinking of bringing in another female into your bed then you should see what his reaction would be if you were to ask him that you would like a threesome adding a male instead......I don't think he would like that idea. I hope that you have shared your concerns with him.
2007-03-05 09:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by LT 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
havent done it yet, huh? it doesnt sound like something you want. if not, just say no. it only works if both of you are open for it. i mean share him with another person. it can be distressful if your not ready. but if you are going to go through with it, there are thing to do before it to make sure its not a total disaster. 1) set some rules. rules are good to make sure thing dont get out of hand. 2) dont let him ignore you. that will hurt you a lot. if he does, grab his mouth and kiss him. 3) set a rule there shall not be any one-on-one sex after. that would be cheating. just relax and enjoy yourself.
2007-03-05 09:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I form ok, ok and in simple terms ok too!! Its very nicely as long as that person isn't from Oklahoma :P nicely,its rather ok once you're texting/chatting na ...! lost - How do you get so humorous ....hillarious answer :)
2016-10-17 08:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋