2007-03-05 09:11:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he is on cocaine really bad
2007-03-05 09:19:33 · update #1
need somebody to talk to please email me
2007-03-05 09:32:18 · update #2
Unfortunately, there's not much one can do, unless the user is amenable to help. The best thing is probably to learn what you can about the best ways to help such ones, let him know you want to help him, & be there for if & when he becomes receptive to your offer of help. (Be careful ... Don't let him use you! Drug users are often masters of manipulation!)
DRUGS :
~ Who Takes Them?
~ Why DO People Abuse Them?
~ There IS a Solution to Drug Abuse http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/7/8/article_01.htm
Drug Abuse in the Family--What Can You Do?
http://watchtower.org/e/20030408/article_01.htm
Is there any indication as to the reason behind his using?
It might help if you were to learn that, as he might be in need of reassurance on some level. For example, if depressed, or, just unsure of himself, these are things that are helpful:
Hope--Where Can You Find It? :
- Does Hope Really Make a Difference?
- Why Do We Need Hope?
- You CAN Fight Pessimism
- Where Can You Find REAL Hope? http://watchtower.org/e/20040422/article_01.htm
How to Find Real Happiness
- Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep Your Life Simple
- Happiness and Self-Worth
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2001/3/1/article_02.htm
Some people 'use' out of loneliness ...
Why So Many Lonely People?
- Coping With Loneliness
- What You Can Do About Loneliness
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/6/8/article_01.htm
Many do so because they lack purpose in their lives ...
What Is the Purpose of Life? How You Can Find It ...
http://watchtower.org/e/pr/index.htm?article=article_01.htm
If you can help him pinpoint what the triggers are that cause him to want to 'use' again, & he's willing to eradicate those situations &/or attitudes --or at least how to cope realistically with them-- you will be doing a LOT more than most people would even think of trying to do! Helping users can be heart-breaking, as relapses are common, but their lives are just as valuable as anyone elses!
What Is Life Worth? :
- Life--Precious or Cheap?
- How Precious YOUR Life IS
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/2/1/article_01.htm
2007-03-05 09:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it will be alot easier if he actually wants your help. If so, then you can be there for him if he wants to do rehab, or whatever he chooses to get clean. That all depends on what he's abusing and how low he really is. I went through this with an ex that I really cared about, it was sad to see him so low, but I was just there for him while he did outpatient treatments, like I would give him rides to his appointments and pick him up. Eventually he got better. So if he wants your help, just figure out what kind of help you can give him, that is within your limits. Don't let it disrupt your life too much though, because if it doesn't work, you will end up blaming yourself for not doing more. Set limits!
2007-03-05 09:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You honestly cant do anything. He has to want to do somthing himself. I personly think its useless to even try. Even if he goes to the hospital or rehab it still wouldnt help unless he really wanted it. Odds are he is going to have to hit rock bottom too. Although he is hurting everyone around him he isnt going to see that with the drugs. most of the time they never do. Maybe the best thing you can do is to tell him he is hurting you and back off. If anything you arnt just leaving without a trace and abandoning him. You are letting him know that he is hurting you and you cannot be around and accept his behavior. I understand this may sound harsh but maybe what he needs is honest words and honest actions. If no one does this he is going to continue on the same path because no one will show him their are any consequences to what he is doing. And if he has children please report them dont make those children grow up like that. That would just breed them to be drug addicts.
2007-03-05 09:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by moonlitocean2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely nothing you can do..cocaine make you crazy, paranoid, i bet he's a sweet heart when he's not high! and that's what keeps you holding on! let him know that you love him an move on! when he's ready to get himself together he will. until then you will never be able to have stability with him. your wasting your time.
2007-03-05 09:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by weary minded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, sometimes there is nothing you can do. I had to walk away from my fiance, after 9 years, because he was so addicted to meth he became a different person. They can only help themselves; and take you down with them if they don't want to.
2007-03-05 09:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by mzindica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing to do nothing and walk away. If he can't straighten up when you do then it was definately not to be and saves you ALOT OF HEARTACHE
2007-03-05 09:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by twinstars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him be their for him if he dont want to change then their is nothing u can do but be his friend get everyone in a room that loves him and is worried about him and everyone talk to help
2007-03-05 09:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him something that NEVER fails. "if you love me you'll stop doing drugs."
Believe me, I could get my ex to roll over with that one.
2007-03-05 09:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kai-Kai 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
give him a hail mary and move on. move on and don't look back or you will turn to stone.
2007-03-05 09:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋