I am 24 going on 25 and my husband is 14 yrs older than .He just had a heart attack and was diagnosed with lung cancer so i am worried about his health . We have been married a year and half.I just found out that i pregnant ! I have really irregular periods sometimes only every other month even though i was on the pill.So it was a big shock to me to find out i a 3. 5 months along!Should i wait to say anything ?I dont want to shock him because he did want a child ith me but i dont think he meant this soon.
2007-03-05 09:08:43 · 45 answers · asked by Melrose G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES!!!!!!!!!!! You should absolutely tell him!!!!!!!! It will probably life his spirits. This is GREAT NEWS!!!!! There's nothing like telling someone who is gravely ill great news that will make their will to live even stronger.
Are you kidding? TELL HIM!!!! I'm sure he will be "Over the Moon" with happiness. Sure it might be soon - but maybe God planned this baby soon for a reason - to give him a reason to live and get well!
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-05 09:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by f w 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him immediately what difference is it going to make if you wait any longer he will feel as though you lied to him. If he has been diagnosed with lung cancer and had a heart attack chances are he doesn't feel as though he is going to live for that much longer and if you say he wanted a baby but not this soon, at this point there would be nothing to soon for him. Chances are this would make his life.
2007-03-05 21:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask his doctor if it is the right time for you to tell him. as you mention he just had a heart attack. but I Think he will be fine because he did want a child. second try to hint things and ask him what if kind a question then you will find out. I'm sure having a baby is a lot of work but again is bless from god it will change your life and him for the best. all the best to you and him.
ps. if you have a good relationship with his mother go and talk to her or his best friend.
your seem a good wife and concern about your husband hearth that is a very good quality in a woman.
2007-03-05 09:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Definitely tell him, sounds like he has some serious health problems and the mind is a powerful thing. Telling him will give him a reason to hang on and get well. I know you don't want to think about this, but worst case scenario, you never tell him and his lung cancer/heart takes him....he'll never get the chance to know he conceived a child with you, he's gonna be a daddy...tell him.
2007-03-05 09:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by dardarzene 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to tell him. Honestly, with all of the stuff that you both have been through you need to do this up BIG TIME. If his health allows maybe plan a really nice dinner somewhere, buy a pretty pink and blue baby blanket wrap it up and during dinner give it to him (you can use anything a picture frame with an ultrasound picture a bib that says "my daddy loves me"). This just may be what he needs to really fight this cancer. Let him enjoy ever minute of you being pregnant. Best of luck to all three of you!
2007-03-05 09:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Good things come in small packages! Congratulations!! I think this is going to keep his mind off of his health and onto something very positive. Which is what I've read helps people with cancer. Positive thinking. Although not sure about lung cancer. Sorry to hear he is so ill. So yes, my vote is tell him!
2007-03-05 09:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Of course you should tell him about this wonderful blessing! My heart goes out to you and all these horrible times u r going thru. Have faith- miracles happen each and every day! My mother recovered from lung cancer and colon cancer so it does happen! He will so happy and thrilled! Good luck to u
2007-03-05 09:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, he's 14 years older than you, you're 24... Sounds like it's a fairly reasonable age to have a child.
This baby is coming whether you like it or not, and you'll have to tell him sometime, rather sooner than later.
Just break it to him gently if you're afraid of another heart attack.
2007-03-05 09:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you husband has received some pretty depressing news recently. Maybe this baby came at just the right time. Maybe this will make him happy and give him strength to fight the obstacles he has in front of him right now. I think you should tell him. Good luck with everything.
2007-03-05 09:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Definitely tell him ASAP. He'll need the entire remaining 6 months to adjust to the idea. You never know, he may realize that with his health problems, he wants a child sooner because he may realize his time may be limited. It could be a big boost to his health, knowing he will be a dad. Good luck.
2007-03-05 09:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋