Keeping birth control a secret?

Question

i'm a virgin. my parents do not approve of my boyfriend (we just celebrated 1 year on saturday), but i love him to death and i have absolutely no doubt that i want him to be my first. i don't want my first time to be to a condom, so i want to know how i can obtain birth control and keep it a secret from my parents?? every year when my parents do the taxes they collect medical receipts from us and i wonder what would happen if i got on birth control but didn't say anything.
Also, do you (LADIES please) have any tips on how to go through with it the first time with the least amount of pain? I'm very sensitive. I hope this isn't TOOO much information!

i am 21, my boyfriend is 25. he is clean, and i, well, being a virgin, am clean too.

Answer 1

If you are still young enough to be living with your parents you shouldn't be thinking about pre-marital sex. If you DO plan to be sexually active, it's best to be honest about it because your parents will find out regardless of how cagey you are--trust me.

Answer 2

I'm not for disobeying your parents, but you're 21 years old! If you were a minor this would be a whole different issue, but you're an adult and therefore any Dr would give you a prescription without telling anyone. If money is an issue (paying for the office visit and the birth control) there are clinics you can go to that offer their services for little or no cost. There would be no reason or need to tell your parents about it. (And throw the receipts away.) Just make sure you keep that little pink compact somewhere safe. But you need to make sure you're on birth control for a while to give it time to start working. And there's no harm in using a condom anyways, just in case. There's a lot of different types available that you could use and probably wouldn't be able to tell the difference. Better safe than sorry...and maybe you should talk to your parents about the fact you're old enough to start making your own decisions....As for the pain, everyone is different and a lot of it depends on the size of the guy, but the best advice I can give you is relax and don't try anything too advanced the first time--keep it simple and basic and don't rush.

I think this is the oddest answer I've ever given.

Answer 3

You should really think this through, and make sure this is what you want to do, because once it's over, you can never get your first time back. Also, a condom is your best defense against STD's. I know you've been with this guy for a year, and you think you are ready, but do you really know him? Because again, many STD's are not curable. Are you ready to live with that if he is not the person you think he is? Please don't think I am another adult trying to lecture you. I just want you to think about all that is really involved before you take the step, and it's too late to undo. It would be nice if you could talk to your mom or another trustworthy and responsible adult before you make this big decision. If after all this, you still want to proceed, you should visit your local health department. They should be able to help you out with the birth control. It should be free or pretty close, so you should not have to use your insurance card with your parents. I don't think it is legal for them to disclose the information, but check first. And remember, birth control is not 100%. If you are having a hard time telling your parents that you want to have protected sex, imagine how hard it would be to tell them you had protected sex, and the protection failed. Kids are great, but they require a lot of love, a lot of patience, and a lot of sacrifice on your part. It sounds really romantic, until you have a kid and you are unmarried and struggling to do it all. Not to mention all the fun times you would miss durring your younger years. Please think this through. And yes, it does hurt the first time and for some, a few times after that.

Answer 4

Go to planned parenthood. Is he a virgin too? If not then you need to use a condom to protect against HIV and many other sexually transmitted diseases. Don't be foolish worrying about first time being with a condom b/c it's not that way. Your first time is with your boyfriend. Better to be safe than to walk away with something you have to deal with for the rest of your life.

Tell your bf to take it nice and slow with you. Maybe you should use a lube like Ky to help things along. If you have never done anything then it will hurt but not excrutiating pain where you will want to die. Don't be scared, just relax and it will hurt less. If you have been fooling around then it won't be that bad b/c you would have already known what it sort of will be like. I don't want to be graffic but just look up information online or ask planned parenthood about it. Good luck.

Answer 5

Your over 18 years old so YES u can buy ANY kind of birth control there is! U can get the shot and that protects u from pregnancy for 5 years and noone will ever find anything like pills by accident. You hang on to the man u love! My father was a doctor and my mother a teacher and WOW they always tried pushing me to marry a doctor or lawyer- and I married a redneck WELDER! We have been married 21 years now- we met in 10th grade in highschool and we r just as happy today as we were then! This is your life! This is the man u love. Your parents arent the ones who will spend their life with him! YOU R! True love is impossible to find so once u do hang on for dear life! Good luck to u

Answer 6

Your doctor can prescribe birth control pills and by law all medical information is secret. How you will pay for them is another matter. Regardless of pills, condoms are still necessary. Pills do not protect against disease and nothing is 100% effective against pregnancy so the more protected you are, the better you will fare. Besides, condoms are not as bad as many men, who simply don't want to bother and likely won't take responsibility for the results, would have you to believe.

Answer 7

you will have to have yoru own money and not use your insurance card you have with your parents and go to planned parenthood. They will have to do a vaginal exam i believe, before they give you a perscription for birth control of which you will also have to pay for yourself. However if you are already getting vaginal exams then just make an appointment with your doctor and tell the doctor what you want and that you don't want your parents to know. That way you can use the insurance for the doctor's visit and the perscriptions which will save you money. Just hide it really well and don't give them your receipts for it. Throw them in the trash where you buy them at.

Answer 8

call your local health department and talk to them about getting on birth control. if his not a virgin as well you should really think about using a condom. condoms are not just to keep you from having a baby it keeps you from having other things too. i hope ever thing works out for you and i cant help you on the 2nd part of your question

Answer 9

First, Planned parenthood can help you with birth control. However, you will have to have a pelvic exam. FUN! You didn't mention how old you are; I STRONGLY recommend a condom. One STD can affect the rest of your life. I made an unwise decision a LONG time ago and can no longer have children as a result.
Please don't risk it; you will never forgive yourself.

Answer 10

confident, he could desire to save it a secret, yet there nonetheless are possibilities that your mom unearths out in a various way, she will have the capacity to definetely ask various questions approximately what the healthcare expert stated etc...The healthcare expert will commonly provide you a prescription and additionally you will purchase the pills on the drug keep each and each month. they're rather costly. yet be careful that as quickly as you're taking beginning administration you commonly could desire to tell your healthcare expert approximately it whilst he prescribes different drugs or in case you have surgical technique..it somewhat is taken into consideration necessary. examine in the process the affected person leaflet heavily and persist with it. additionally, in case you settle directly to take beginning administration it must be for an prolonged era, not basically for a month or 2, in any different case it is going to decrease to rubble your hormonal activity and could provide you wellness subjects like ovarian cysts. Take them given which you would be able to persist with them because of fact the actuality which you save it a secret out of your mom won't help in taking them the impressive way etc....

Answer 11

Look into the meaning of 'clean' - you can get AIDS from sexual contact even if he got it fom a dirty needle.I think you're old enough to do that kind of research. Also, you're old enough to buy your birth control with cash! And pay for any expenses that come out of your sexual activity out of your own pocket - don't tell me you thought your parents would be footing the bill for you to have 'safe' sex with a guy they don't even like. Not nice!