me and my boyfriend,plus my best mate and her boyfriend all used to go out on saturday nights.we always had a great time,but recently me and my boyfriend split up.since then,i've been going out with other mates,and also still seeing my best mate and her bf.however,i'm not seeing her this saturday as her n her bf have been invited to ther mate's party.So she suggested us going out together on friday night instead,so we see eachother for a few hours at least.Then she announced she had her cousin's party to go to that night and her bf was invited too.I felt a bit hurt by this,and she said 'oh well you can come too...' and trailed off.I need her right now because i'm feeling terrible after the break up too and it hurt a bit.Should i confront her about it?
2007-03-05 09:07:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow and ouch. Sometimes people can get so relaxed around people that they become almost careless. You seem like someone who doesn't want to create a scene. Here's my advice: Don't blow up at her. Believe it or not, she's not realizing you'e hurt because she is so comfortable arould you and she thinks you're stronger than you really are. It's either that or the opposite: She's distracted by her own problems. To make sure you don't offend her if that is in fact the case, ask her first if she's doing okay. If she asks why, explain that it's because you're feeling a tad left out. My instinct tells me that you've tried to get her to realize this many times, but she keeps putting her boyfriend in front of your non-boyfriendness (nice word, no?). So to revise our action plan: Remember her feelings, make sure she's doing okay, then just spill. And when you do spill, don't blame her at all. Add I know it's not your fault many times, or else she'll get defensive. =D good luck!!
2007-03-05 09:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Cloudyheartgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. Get over yourself. The world and all the people around it do not revolve around you. Be capable of spending time by yourself. Be emotionally strong enough that you don't have to have someone next to you to enjoy the day or the evening.
Be glad that you were given the free time to do exactly what you wanted to do; not tag along on another's social life. Have no expectations of others and learn to enjoy each moment of life exactly as it happens. Enjoy the change and flow with it.
2007-03-05 17:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt exactly confront her- but I would let her know that u r hurting alot right now and need her friendship desperately. She is your best friend- tell her exactly how u feel! Be honest with her but not too mean about it- not confrontational just a simple: I need u friend should do it!
2007-03-05 17:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your problems and a breakup is very hard to deal with. But maybe your being a little hard on your friend. She has alot planned it seems. So try to be more understanding of her feelings to. Yes I definitely feel that you should talk to your Best friend. She's not trying to hurt you on purpose.
2007-03-05 17:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "confront" her.
Just tell her honestly and openly how you feel about it. Tell her your " I'm all emotional and soggy right now, anyway because of the break up and sorry your have to get caught up in it, but I really need you to be there for me right now".
PS: Do not get mad if she can't.
2007-03-05 17:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is a really close friend, tell her how you feel and she will understand you are confronting her because you care so much about your friendship, best of luck!
2007-03-05 17:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butch up and reschedule your play time.
2007-03-05 17:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by dave_cooke1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you kidding me, you are going to comfort this, your insane////
2007-03-05 17:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Pistonsfan101 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋