I want more romantic attention from my husband. I always wear low cut shirts I bend over in front of him and he seems like he doesn't notice, I mean I want him to tell me I'm beautiful and hold me what else should I do?
2007-03-05 08:59:37 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'll go with the first answer, but clarify it since in it's original form it's a little misleading.
You can't be direct and give hints.
Giving hints often doesn't work.
Being direct has a better chance of working.
Let's look at a couple of communication examples:
"How come you are not romantic anymore?"
"I really liked it when you brought me flowers to work when we were dating."
Which do you think is better? The second one. Why? Because it's about how you feel, so you own your feelings, and it tells him what has worked. You could follow that up by saying you want him to do that again from time to time.
What's wrong with the first one? It's sure to put him on the defensive. It's all about him, nothing about how you feel. Oh, you may think it's about how you feel, but really it's just a judgment, a nag and complaint about him.
Be direct, don't hint.
If you want him to be romantic, remind him of romantic things he's done before and ask him to do those again.
2007-03-05 09:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should set that mood by buying something that is sexy enough to wear to bed. Put a dim light on in the bedroom even. Put a little note on his computer or where ever he will find it, with something sexy to say to him. Make sure kids don't find it, if you have any at home. If he doesn't approach you, then you approach him. It is okay for women to do the approaching, it doesn't have to always be the men to start. Plus, you never know, he may like that too! Or you can wear your hair a different way, buy a perfume he likes, polish your nails, etc... Do something different to your apparel that he has never seen before. Go up to him and tell him you love him and just give him a hug and kiss him for a long while. If a kiss doesn't turn him on, then nothing else will! (smile)
2007-03-05 09:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't get a thrill out of you wearing low cut shirts and bending over in front of him, there is a problem. My suggestion is just a little at odds with most of the others'.
May I suggest not asking or demanding from him what you would like him to do for you, but simply asking him what you can do for him to get the desired response? Tell him that you've been trying to get romance, which is important to you, by trying to turn him on but it's obviously not working.
It's very simple. Just ask him what you must do to get him to be more romantic and tell him what your definition of romance is. If he cares about you, he'll be flattered that you want to please him and you'll very likely get what you want in return.
Good luck and I would love to know how it works out!
2007-03-05 09:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are pretty dense when it comes to this. Try pinning a large note to your shirt that says, "I'm your wife and I expect some attention, please press the left boob if you are interested!" If he still doesn't do anything, make him an appointment with an eye doctor. All kidding aside, you can't expect some husbands to be that smart to understand your romantic needs. Many weren't raised that way. Talk to him about what you want to see from him. But try the note anyway, to see if it works!
2007-03-05 09:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By bending over and wearing low cut shirts should make him want to bang you,,, not hold you and say you are beautiful.
Now,,, when he is banging away,,,, ask him,, " Am I beautiful",,, when he says yes,,, act like that just flipped on your sex drive and work him over,,, maybe he will associate the wild ride with you hearing you are beautiful,, but you just never know,, good luck.
2007-03-05 09:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL can I be your husband for a weekend? Is your husband an ***-man; in other words does he like myself like a nice bootay? Ever tried role playing, putting on one of his dress shirts with a tie? Okay these are things that I like and you live nearby psst call me over (just kidding...well maybe I'm not). Neways I cannot understand why so many men are having less interest in their wives; that just makes it easier for me. Have no fear; I'm married maybe not happily but then again who is. Let me know how things work out.
2007-03-05 09:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by mrdazzle1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an individual and not necessarily like you assume most men are!! Talk to him about it before you feel less desirable. Maybe there are other ways to turn him on!! Men are not all turned on by women with loose clothes. Some men are more romantic. Find out because he is your husband and it's very important.
2007-03-05 09:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, NOTE TO ALL WOMEN! It's great that you wear a nice perfume and such, and all those sweet powders and what not,....but, besides the visual, if we can't get a good stealthy whiff of your Pheromones (Scent)....we don't always get a clue. This also serves not only for sex, but, the "attention", petting and affection that we all like from our companions.
We cover this up (both sexes) with perfumes and cologne, and well......it won't work if we cover it up.
2007-03-05 09:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, people just get in a rut and need to be surprised out of it. If you don't have kids, meet him at the door stark naked or in some sort of revealing lingerie, preferably in the middle of the day or sometime when he really wouldn't be expecting it. He'll probably notice that.
Make sure it's him, not the mailman.
If you have kids, don't do this. It would traumatize them, and then you'd have to pay for therapy.
2007-03-05 09:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by romipenne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be direct with him and tell him what you would like to have and expect from him....you didn't mention what type of work he does or hours he puts in....he could just be drained...i am a mechanic and work between 70 and 100 hours a week sometimes....having an open line of communication with him is a must.....continue wearing the sexy things and even if you don't catch his eye i am sure you will catch someones eye
2007-03-05 09:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by kevin c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋