When I was about 10 or so, I was with my mom & dad in a store as they were shopping.
We got seperated, & 2 black women who were older, I think 1 of them was in her 20's or so, & the other about 30 or 40, but 1 of them got one of my arms, while the other took my other arm.
They started to lead me to another part of the store, & ask me sexual questions, & if my parents were near or if I was alone. One of them swung her buttocks across my lap, as the other held me.
I was too young to know what to do, my parents were very religious, no TV or anything, never taught me about sex or anything. I didn't know what was going on back then.
This happened really quick, & the girls let go when they heard footsteps coming, looking like they had done nothing, browsing near by.
I was traumatized by this for years later, blaming myself.
I know people get angry about guys who rape girls, or don't think it can happen to guys that women do that, but it can.
It scared me. Should I forgive them now?
2007-03-05 08:50:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I know exactly what you are going through. I have been molested by a friend of the family when I was in 7th grade. For years Ive been carrying the pain for years . When my family found out, they did NOTHING about it. Its like it never happened to them. I hated what this man did to me but I had forgive him. In order for you to have closure you need to forgive them. You don't want to be carrying baggage in your next or current relationship. I know this must of been a very difficult time in your life. Unforgiveness could hinder your well being and future.
2007-03-05 09:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by surpassingangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that would be traumatic! Bless your heart. I have to begin with a question. Did you work through the trauma first? If not, the forgiveness will not be easy. I can only imagine how this harmed you for quite a while. If you haven't already, get with a therapist and get this stuff out, so you can throw it away.
I think you have to forgive, so you can attempt to put this behind you. If you keep the hate, then those two women still have some control over you. However, once you are able to forgive, then you will be free of them. Will you forget, no, but you can remind yourself every time the thought comes up that you have forgiven and are trying to put this demon to death. The memories will come less and less, until maybe one day you won't think about them at all.
2007-03-05 09:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No!!! Forget about God , salvation or any other religious mumbo jumbo. Why would you want to forgive them? That would make it alright. However, you should not dwell on this incident. Nor should you hate them for it. After all, they are, in no way, affected by your feelings but you could really screw yourself up by becoming filled with hatred.
2007-03-05 09:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by kuntess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you as i bet the two females could care less. To me this seems more like a hate crime than just rape
2007-03-05 09:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ibredd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my I would have been traumatized too. But it wasn't your fault I would say forgive them.BUT NEVER FORGET. I don't believe in that forgive and forget.
2007-03-05 08:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, forgive them, but never forget it. Your experience was traumitizing, and I did go through what you went through, all I can say is FORGIVE!
2007-03-05 08:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off....IT WAS NEVER YOUR FAULT....
Second, only if it is interferring with your emotional development, should you forgive them,,,,If you can function normally, never forgive......If forgiving them will clear your soul, then do....
2007-03-05 08:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude that is messed up. don't blame yourself. only you can answer this question.
2007-03-05 08:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋