I'm considering deactivating from my sorority. I love most of the girls, and if they had not been around, I probably wouldn't be alive right now. Some of my best friends are members. It's just that my mom is trying to convince me to deactivate because of money issues. I do have a few slight issues, but they aren't bad, and I can work through those. It would be nice to not have to worry about what type of meeting it is, though, and not have to worry about being good enough (i'm not talking the normal good enough, i'm talking about grades and stuff). I don't know. I know right now I'm on special status because I'm less than full time. Because of that I can't even participate. I'd feel horrible leaving my mom (big sis) all alone because her other dot (lil sis) transfered last year. I know this is a decision that I should make, but I'm really split.
2007-03-05 08:47:59 · 3 answers · asked by flitter_86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds as though you do need to take some time off to straighten out issues in your life. Just because you deactivate your status doesn't mean you can't be friends with the girls in the sorority. Just be honest about your reasons when you do it and they will understand and you can always go back later when you are ready. Stressing yourself out trying to raise money and keep your grades up only hurts you. There is plenty of time for stress after college, trust me.
2007-03-05 08:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there are several things you can do other than deactivating (especially since it seems like you love your sorority!)
first, definitely talk to the president and VP Finance. you are probably not the first person that has had financial difficulties. often, they can come up with a payment plan to make it easier for you to pay dues. there also may be chapter money set aside for special cases like yours. the best thing to do is ask.
second, your sorority may have national scholarships for women who are unable to pay. check out your sororities national website and see if they have anything you could apply for.
third, remember that even if you do deactivate, these girls aren't going to stop being your friends. they will understand the situation you are going through...and if they don't then they arent good sisters!
i hope everything works out for you!
2007-03-07 00:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your sorority president and "big sis." Let them know the difficulties you are facing, and that you really love being a part of the sorority and all the girls, but that financially it's really rough for you. Maybe they can offer so that you can stay a member somehow.
2007-03-05 17:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋