I have a SERIOUS question.?

Question

I had a question about...well...sex. I was wondering what you do. Do you just sit there or dod you do other things. I mean, not like "sex games" or whatver. But what about if you were in "missionary". Do you just sit there waiting for it all to be over or what? I'm just confused. Thanks for your help.

P.S. I am 13, so please don't say I am "too young" to be asking this question. At least I am not out there trying to figure it out firsthand.

P.S.S. And no, I am not thinking about having sex. I am just curious.

Answer 1

I applaude you for trying to get the facts, no one seems to know these days, and it just leads to bad choices, like not using protection. As a girl, the responsibility of movement is an optional one. Its going to be difficult to move in tandom with your partner in the beginning, especially in missionary. You're going to be sore, lol. Its easiest to get used to it in "cowgirl" which is with the female on top (Straddling him, facing him) Just move back and forth (not up and down, that invites disaster unless you and your partner have a lot of experience together) If he's on top, you're gonna want to try to use your abs to lift your pelvis up to meet him when he thrusts forward. This is gonna be hard. You can, of course, just hold onto the bed and try to keep as still as possible, which is helpful for first timers who like it a bit harder. If you're more flexible, you can put your feet down on the bed, and use your legs to lift yourself up instead of your abs. Just in general, as far as movement goes, try to be the mirror of him, and let him set the pace, unless you really dont like the one he's doing. If he goes out, go out a little too, when he comes in, come in. Or whatever works for you ;p Its all about discovery (which is why its good to have a partner you can talk to and feel comfortable with) Its going to take a little experiementation, but you'll figure it out! Dont forget the condoms!

Answer 2

first off, are you a boy or a girl?

if you are a boy, first you need to get a condom that fits. provide stimulation for your partner (to get her very lubricated) you need to stimulate her clitoris and surrounding areas...after she is sufficiently lubricated, make sure that your penis is fully erect, open the condom package (that you have not had in your wallet or glove box in the car) and unroll the condom completely down your penis making sure that you save the tip at then end for your ejaculate...(CHECK THE EXPIRATION DATE AS WELL) it may be easier the first time for her to be on top...so ask her to get on top of your penis and let her vagina slide down over your penis...after you ejaculate, your penis will start to shrink rather quickly, so make sure that when she gets off, you hold onto your condom to prevent an accident (read dad here)...the more that you 2 participate, the easier it will become and the more positions that you can do
if you are the girl, make sure that you are sufficiently lubricated...if you feel that you are not, and you may need some lubricant help, use KY jelly (or a water soluble lubricant) because vaseline will help destroy the latex material (read mom here). It may be more comfortable the first time with you on top...you merely slide up and down on his penis massaging your clitoris and soon you should have an orgasm...it will take practice for a few times, as he will probably ejaculate much faster than you will have an orgasm...(that is learned behavior for him, because if he masturbates, he will do it quickly to get to the fun part fast and also so that his mom doesn't catch him)...so he needs to think of everyone in his 6th grade class row by row (or some other diversionary technique) unless he is only in the 4th grade (and then you are stuck)...hopefully he will last as long as you do, so you can share the pleasure together...
good luck

Answer 3

Hopefully you do NOT just sit there waiting for it all to be over, lol. (Guys call that a “dead lay.”)

Hon, there's nothing wrong with your question—it's a really good one, actually—but I doubt you're going to get much of an answer on here. Mostly because any truthful and accurate answer will, of necessity, be pretty explicit. A lot of people aren't comfortable talking about that sort of thing in a public forum, and even if they are, someone's probably going to report the answer.

I'll tell you what, I'll try to give you the best answer I think I can get away with here, and we'll see if this question gets deleted or not ;)

Here's some tips: I'm sure (or at least I HOPE) that you know that in missionary position, the man's laying on top of you, with his penis in your vagina, thrusing in and out. That's the basics; there's a LOT of other things you can be doing at the same time. Hopefully a lot of kissing, for one thing. You've got your arms and legs free, so you can wrap your legs around him, run your fingers through his hair, and touch or rub just about any part of his, and your, body that you can reach. The woman doesn't have to just lay there, she can thrust back too with her pelvis. The woman can also squeeze the man's penis with her vagina if she has learned to control her vaginal muscles. That feels great for both people. (There's exercises called "kegels" that teach you how to do that, you can look it up online if you’re interested.)

Just FYI, missionary isn't the greatest position IMHO. You're kind of trapped under the man, he can't really get his hands free because he's got to support himself, and neither one of you can reach your clitoris easily. The majority women don't have orgasms from intercourse alone, they need clitoral stimulation too, so most times it's really not the best position for the girl, although there's nothing wrong with it. Girl-on-top ("cowgirl") and "doggy style" work a lot better if you ask me, because you both gat reach each other’s bodies a lot easier. Especially for cowgirl, it’s easier for the woman to control the speaad and pressure, so she can enjoy herslef more.

Hope that answers some of your questions or at least gives you a basic idea. It's totally normal for you to be interested in this, and unfortunately "sex ed" really doesn't teach you much more than how not to get pregnant or get STDs—which is crucial, but a just the beginning. Obviously, the best way to learn more about sex is for you to talk to a relative or older friend who you can trust, but since this is the second time you've posted this question, I assume there's an issue with that. If you're just embarrassed to talk about it, just get over it. If you've already asked your Mom and she freaked out on you or whatever, or she’s just not giving you enough information, there are plenty of books at the library and book stores, and even some good resources on the web. I just don't think that YA is really one of them.

Be smart and have fun.

Answer 4

Glad to hear you are not curious enough to try it out. When you are in a special mature relationship sex brings its own set of natural responses between a couple; there are two people participating. Just remember that sex is not something to take lightly and don't ever feel pressured just because someone else may be curious. You sound like a good kid. That's probably enough for now.

Answer 5

Well if you were just lying there waiting for it to be oever then that would be bad sex and you would probably not e seeing that person again!
When you are having sex you are caught up in the moment and enjoying yourself so you are not going to be counting the ceiling tiles or anything.
You will not know until you ahve done it, which hopefully will not be for e few years yet.

Answer 6

uh, well u cant just lie there in the missionary position, u gotta move too lol. well, u might have sex in different positions, if the guy knows wat he's doing then he might give u a bl0w j0b (licking ur vagina) and ur suppost to give the guy a bl0w j0b (sucking his penis), so, ya, theres a lot too it, the guy will probably rub u up. lol u pretty much just do a hole bunch of perverted and sexuall things lol.

Answer 7

well whatever you feel comfortable doing. some women keep their nightdresses on & do it under the duvet first time, without the guy seeing anything. you don't have to do everything you hear about until you feel ready.
and remember, if a man carries on & a woman says no, it's rape so make it clear what you want & don't want before you start

Answer 8

if you are just waiting for it to be over then you arent ready to ahve sex in the first place.
sex is as well as a physical thing but an emotional thing...and once its done..its done..no getting it back.

Answer 9

ALOT of stuff goes on. Look on Wikipedia. It has information on ANY subject including sex.

Answer 10

Why don't you talk to your mom about these things. She would be the best choice to talk to!