he always seems to be online....the other night when he used the bath room I got on the pc and he was very agitated and worried about what I was doing....do you think he is up to no good
2007-03-05 08:28:18 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's clearing the history, you can almost COUNT on the fact that he's up to no good.
If he's not doing anything wrong, there should be nothing to hide. PERIOD.
2007-03-05 08:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's deleting the history and gets "agitated" when you get on the computer during a break of his - he's definitely hiding something! It may or may not be cheating - but I'm sure it's no good. Talk to him about it. You might even get a type of software that doesn't allow you to visit porn sites (more convincing if you have children that use the computer and only if this is what he's up to). At least you'll know something's DEFINITELY up if he gets upset when he sees this is on there and will open the grounds up for discussion.
If he's cheating - more than likely, he's using email, chat rooms, and dating sites. Nothing will change with the software added if this is what he's up to.
2007-03-05 08:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Confront him my husband was doing the same i thought it was porn until enough was enough i crept downstairs at 3 in the morning and he turned it off at switch we went upstairs to bed as soon as i knew he was asleep went back down turned on comp and lo and behold, he had been chatting someone else up for 6 months i have had a rotten last 4 month due to finding out but was well worth it :)
I knew it wasn't just porn because we watch that together i don't believe in keeping secrets from one another so he really hurt my feelings and trust me he regrets it all now. So he bloody should not saying your fella is doing this but usually gut feelings can be right insist the next time he wipes history he not going on it any more you'll soon see if he reacts like a little kid good luck and i hope for you he isn't doing wrong :)
2007-03-06 00:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's clearing his history and getting agitated when you went on the pc without him "preparing" for it by clearing the pc, then he's hiding something. Have you just directly asked him what he's doing and why he's hiding it?
If you ask him that (politely, not all suspicious), and he gets belligerent or nasty at you, install the keylogger. You need to know what you're dealing with before you go any further.
If he's open with you, perhaps he's been looking at some fetish site he's embarassed by or something, then trust him and let it go.
2007-03-05 08:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by romipenne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to this site & download a free home key logger
http://www.kmint21.com/keylogger/
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As soon as you install the Home Key Logger, you'll see its icon in the System Tray. To hide the icon just point your mouse to it & right click...then click on "hide icon"
anyway...it'll walk you through the set-up when you're ready & how to use it.
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You can secretly monitor every keystroke on your computer. This program tells you what was typed, when it was typed, in what program it was typed, and on what web site it was typed. It even monitors whom someone is chatting with on Instant Messaging programs.
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There are those that would say it's not being very trusting to spy on your hubby, but quite honestly if 2 people have agreed to share their lives together & be totally committed.......then each should be allowed open access to each other's activities without feeling as though they have to spy in order to reach peace of mind......as far as I'm concerned anyone is allowed to do exactly as they wish....whether it's porn, affairs or whatever rocks their boat, as long as they're totally honest about it so I can then arrange to leave their sorry ar.se
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I hope this brings some peace of mind & quite honestly if your husbands being so secretive then he's causing you to want to find out, come what may.....just check that you have thought through what exactly you'll do about what you may find....not a lot of good digging up a load of crap if you're not going to do anything with what you find, ignorance is sometimes bliss....although for me it isn't.....
good luck
2007-03-05 11:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just ask him instead of snooping, that for me show's a total lack of trust, my other half is often on line and i wouldn't dream of checking up on what he's been looking at, or finding out his password and logging on as him.
So maybe he is looking at some bird with her baps out, big deal, unless you know for sure he's doing something dodgy i'd let sleeping dog's lie otherwise you'll end up torturing yourself and the pc wont be the only thing you start snooping around in and you may not like what you find!
2007-03-05 09:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can use someone elses computer and get you a screen name he does not know. Type his screen name in and tell him you saw his profile and like it. Start a conversation with him and do this as much as you can and see how far he will go to meet you somewhere. Once you are to meet have the print outs from your conversation with you and go up and say why honey what are you doing here? he will come off with some crap and then you can slam the print outs down and look at him call him a lier and that you want a divorce. Go get it and then find someone that you can trust cause you will never be able to trust him again.
2007-03-05 08:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I think so, turn the history back on without him knowing! Or just out with 'why do you clear the history whenever your on the pc' and watch him get very sweaty!
2007-03-05 13:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really, really want to know, get a keylogger. It records everything a person does on the computer. Websites, passwords, conversations, everything. PC Pandora is a great one. If he is erasing the history, there is obviously something he doesn't want you to see. People with nothing to hide don't hide things. Good Luck.
2007-03-05 08:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about you just come right out with what your wanting to know from him.
Your creeping around in a way you think he is.
Just because he deletes everything, doesn't make him a putabout.
I delete all my mail once read, and all txts from phone once read.
Only because its an irritation having them all stack up.
To me its like emptying the rubbish from the bin in the house, would you leave your rubbish 4 weeks without emptying it?
2007-03-05 08:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he erases everything/manages the computer daily, and is very careful where you are when he's on, he is doing something he'd be embarrassed to tell you about. Maybe anyone.
I recommend getting one of those key logger programs so at least you can see what pages he's hitting. But being able to keep it on there without him noticing is tricky. Maybe a hidden camera?
2007-03-05 08:35:12 · answer #11 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋