Why do men always blame everything on the wife?

Question

My husband blames me for every argument. I start them all, i caused all the problems, I made him mad. Umm Hello, Im not perfect, but I would love to know why he is incapable of beleiving that he could possibly be wrong on anything. He is right on everything from cooking meals to rocket science.....Anything you can tell me to convince him he is not the Lord Almighty???

Answer 1

I always seem to have this argument with my own husband. I ask him the same question all the time and he still says its me. I guess men do that because its easier to blame the other one and easier not to take responsibility on their part. I believe that in a marriage, both should take responsibility and not put the blame on the other each are equally to blame. I know ive made my mistakes and he has made his but he never admits to them. Tell him that he will not make you at fault and that you refuse. Give him a taste of his own medicine and make it clear that you are together in any situation whether it be good or bad. Put your foot down and tell him like it is. Do it for all of us wives that deal with this on a day to day basis. Be strong. Good luck

Answer 2

Maybe because he doesn't want to be responsible for his own actions. It does take two to tangle, but there could be times that one of you does start it all because either things don't go your way, or because you just want that attention, or maybe one of you just wants to get revenge, who knows.

There are other ways to not do those things and that is to learn how to get along with each other, it is more peaceful that way!

It all starts with respect. Do you respect each other. If not, then that's where problems start.

I would consider on reading these two great books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". I challenge you to read them!

Answer 3

Hello!!! Some times when (People) get mad at someone,it is usually the very Person that they (LOVE) the most. Your Huspand, (Blames You) the most because, *YOU* are his only (Release Valve) trustworthy enough to (Blow-Off His Steam) because, You are the very *Individual* that he loves & Trust/s the most... Somehow your Huspand, has (Choosen You) to relieve himself of the everyday (Stress) that he feels when he is not w/you & so when he gets home he has learned from you that you are his (Reliefe Valve) to all of his (PROBLEMS)... I do not believe that your Huspand is doing these things just to irritate you or anything like that. He probably is soo use to this *Same O'l Rotuine* that he has gotten (NUMB) to the *Fact* that, it has been bothering you for some time now, & the only (Reason) as to why he keeps it up is because, You have not ***Explained*** it well enough for him to stop... I doubt that he even (Recognizes) that his (Blame-Game) effects you in the most personal way. Your Huspand (NEEDS) to recognize that He is (NOT PERFECT) & that even though he is very (Knowledgeable) in most areas, he is Definately not (Knowledgeable) in everything because, if he were (Truly) Knowledgeable in everything, then, he would have ***Recognized*** that it has ***EFFECTED*** his own Wife-that he truly loves. He still wants from you to be known to you as someone whom is very Inteligent & Knowleadgeable in alot of things. Your Huspand really needs to be (Reminded) that sometimes he can get toooo (Insensitive) when it involves his very own WIFE. Sincerely, Rumeoui .

Answer 4

Just say, yes, i do everything wrong...i married you didnt i??

And by the way, since i cant do anything right, my lawyer will be doing all my work from now on...any questions???

LOL... no... really, sit down and talk with him. Perhaps a therapist. Not only men do this blame game, women do it also. It isnt going to get any better if you dont talk to him or go to a therapist.

Answer 5

Well, he can't be the lord almighty that position is already filled.
I would suggest to get a small voice recorder and turn it on the next time things get heated. play it back after you both have cooled down and listen to it with an open mind, you both may be a lil surprised

Hope this helps

Answer 6

Its time for some therapy...either together or him separately.

I have never known anyone to have all the answers all the time...I certainly screw up enough (my wife, depending on her mood, may be glad to give you a cross-indexed list by year, month day and hour).

She also has her fair share of oops.

But I have never blamed her for everything. She certainly doesn't cause all the arguments or problems...I have never known anyone who has.

He has some issues. You can either try and work them out, send him to a therapist to work them out or live the rest of your life like this. Or Leave. Your life, your choice.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Why do wives always blame everything on the men?

Answer to both questions, because people don't take responsibility for things that happen to and around them! Period!

Answer 8

I had an ex like that. I made him beat off for a week. That seemed to get him off of his high horse. lol

Better yet, though, don't argue with him. Ignore his behavior. When he acts like he knows everything, ask for a reference. That's about all you can do to tone him down.

Answer 9

It is mental and emotional abuse to make you think you are the crazy one. To question yourself, to wonder if maybe you are the one that is the problem. Perhaps it makes him feel superior to you. Has a low self esteem and to make himself feel better he makes you worry about your mental capacities.

Answer 10

Yes. He needs to go to counseling with you to find out why he is being verbally abusive. Go even if he doesn't. But if you can get hin to understand his so-called self-reliance and ego trip is ruining his marriage, you both win.