My husband and I just want it to be us during labor and delivery. Our parents want to be there during labor... but I'm not sure if I want them there (they can be stressful). Who was with you during labor and delivery?
2007-03-05 08:19:29 · 36 answers · asked by *Just Married* 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm due in 3 months but I have already made my decision as to who will be there....
My husband.
That's it. I don't want my parents, his parents, or any other combination of friends/family. Everyone is welcome to wait in the waiting room but the ONLY person I want there is my husband.
If you only want your husband there, then that's what you should do! Do what YOU want and what makes you comfortable! Trust me, you don't need any added stress when you're in labor!!
Good luck!
2007-03-05 08:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My (now ex-) husband, my mom, some really amazing nurses and my doctor. I made it very clear from the beginning that that was what I wanted. I know my in-laws would have loved to be there, but I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it.
My sister and grandfather just happened to be visiting when I went into labor, so they waited down the hall, and I asked for them as soon as it was over. It was such a special surprise that Grampa got to be one of the first to hold the baby!
You have every right to ask your parents and in-laws to wait. You don't want any stress while you're in labor; it makes it harder and more painful if you can't properly relax. Your doctor and nurses will also be perfectly willing to be your advocate if you want to be left alone.
Good luck, and have fun!
2007-03-05 08:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by ihatesunsets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was with me during labor & delivery. I know how you feel. With the birth of my oldest son, I had tons of people there (some who I kinda thought was a little inappropriate too, like sister-in-law and her husband and children). For my youngest it was just my husband through all of it. We kinda kept things "hush-hush" until I was ready for visitors LOL. With my oldest child it was my ex and my mother in labor and just my ex during delivery. The hospital where I had my kids has a policy that you can have who ever you want during the labor stage but when it's time to deliver, just 1 person can be in there.
2007-03-05 08:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had my mother and my husband, and that was IT. I was not comfortable with more people then that. All you need to do is let them know that you appreciate their support but you aren't comfortable with them being in there. I'm a modest person and at first I didn't want anyone but my husband in the room. I had a VERY long labor so by the third day when my son was finally born I didn't care who was in the room. This is your day, you pick who is in the room and what ever you do, DO NOT feel bad for telling them no. I'm sure they will understand.
2007-03-05 08:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
During my labor, I was in so much pain, I didn't want anyone in there. It's not a social time if you are in pain! I didn't even want my husband to be near me or touch me. Then I had to have a C-section, so only my husband could be in the room. You don't know what your circumstances will be when the time comes. I pictured myself sitting up in bed laughing and having a great time visiting while I was in labor, but it didn't happen that way!! All my plans went out the window when the pain started!!! Yes, it will be a stressful time if you are in pain.
2007-03-05 08:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will be a very personal time for you and your husband.If you do not want any one else there besides him then tell your parents that. The decision should be up to the two of you. I had my mother,sisters and spouse with me during labor but only my spouse stayed for the delivery only because the hospital would only allow one person. I wanted my mother to stay also. It is your big day ,plan it the way you want to remember it.
2007-03-05 08:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by phoenix74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made it clear to the nurse on duty when I arrived at the hospital that no one was allowed in there except my husband. My parents could meet the baby after it was all overwith if they wanted to, but I didn't want them to see his birth. It turned out to be a good thing, because we had some complications during the birth and ended up with a room full of doctors and nurses. They would have been shoved to the side and caused a panic if they had been there.
2007-03-05 08:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just me and my husband for the first one. It was extra special just sharing the most wonderful day just us two. Unfortunately he did not make it to the room with my second one - he was changing and I delivered in 15 minutes - so he missed the birth. Don't tell the family when you are ready to go to the hospital, just go. This is suppose to be a joyful time for you and your husband not a stressful time. Family can come visit later when baby has arrived and all three of you are relaxed. Good Luck!!
2007-03-05 08:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only individual I had interior the delivery room for the delivery of my 3 teenagers replaced into my husband and the scientific paintings stress. that's a private and private 2d that i think could desire to be left for couples in simple terms. If for some reason my husband could no longer have been there my suitable chum could have been there yet above my head in simple terms.
2016-10-02 10:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just my husband. Actually, one of my friends came in and talked to me awhile during the labor portion. I don't think I'd want too many people around, they might get in the way. Bottom line, it's you who's having the baby and so you are the one who gets the final say. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do.
2007-03-05 08:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋