They say balance is the key to happiness but...?

Question

how do you balance emotions?

Answer 1

To balance emotions, you don't have to cut back on your emotions.

To balance emotions, you bring logical reasoning into your thought processes a lot more, until the two strengths are in balance.

For example, you may find out that someone you know has been talking behind your back. It's OK to feel anger and disappointment over this. To balance this, take some time to think about why people do this, and why this person may have done this. Think about whether it's reallly that important or not what other people do or think. Think about the rational probability that no one anywhere will ever talk about someone else behind their back. Think about whether indeed YOU have ever done such a thing...

You see? Emotion and logic in relatively equal measure...You can see how it will lead to fewer problems based on emotional pain or emotional actions that you later regret...i.e., less unhappiness. Get in the habit of doing this, and you'll achieved this kind of balance.

Answer 2

"Let them flow and let them go".... The best way to balance your emotional states is to neither fixate on those thoughts that harbor a negative emotion nor deny an emotion and hold it in just because it may not be considered socially acceptable.

Take anger.... Now it's an emotion. Many times under the circumstances one find oneself in, it is a perfectly valid emotion. However, we as a society see anger as an unacceptable emotion to express largely because our early experiences with it. We only learned to deal with it in extremes. Either we explode and lash out (because we never learned to control our reaction to it) or we suppress it (because we were taught it isn't right to show anger).

A more balanced method would be to accept that we feel angry when we do, express it (without the temper tantrum), and then let it go.

(When I figure out how to do steps 2 & 3 better, I'll send out a bulletin. lol)

Answer 3

when they say balance they mean be happy, have healthy anger, and when something is making you sad dont hold it in tell someone about. ( when i say healthy anger i mean as in if someone is hurting you for ex. get pissed off! lol) if you "balance" these emotions out you will have good mental health