I'm so unhappy being gay, I live in a country area in rural australia, and there's seriously no gay people live here! I have noone I can talk to, my parents have already told me I can't be gay because it's wrong and they'll kick me out if I'm gay - I can't tell them. I want to be straight, I tried to not be gay, but it won't work. I don't know what to do, my life's a mess, I'm unpopular and get teased at school, I don't want to go, it's getting too much to handle.
I know lots of gay people live in sydney, but I live a long way from there, and I feel like I'm stuck here, I seriously don't know how i can go on like this. Is there anyone out there that can help? I just feel I'm the only one like this.
2007-03-05 08:10:50 · 11 answers · asked by Xandir 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thankyou to everyone answering.
kadina, xavier?
2007-03-05 08:57:46 · update #1
wow, dude, you sound so much like me 2 years ago! I wonder what part of Australia you're from, I came from a country town about 1.5 hours away from Adelaide.
I'll tell you now, there ARE gay people around you, but you won't know about them. You likely never will for some, others will only come out when they are safely in the city. For goodness sake, DO NOT tell your parents yet. Actually, I'd say avoid telkling anyone right now, you seem too fragile at this time to be able to put up with coming out. Bugger fighting for equality - look out for your safety for now.
You don't have to be actively straight, it tends to blow up in your face. assuming you haven't come out to your peers, you can fake straight by just not being gay - don't take a boyfriend, don't tell anyone you're gay, don't get busted reading gay websites. What the world doesn't know won't hurt you.
When you can, move to the city. You will find more gay people, and you will find friends. they may not be the same people, But you will find both.
You are not stuck, just temporarily displaced. And don't feel alone - there are lots of guys just like you, but they escape as soon as they can. I was one of them.
E-mail me if you want to talk, OK?
2007-03-05 08:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Xavier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I grew up ina rural area of Kentucky and know exactly how you feel. Honestly there is little that can be done at this point about your situtation. What you can do is focus on the future. Do really well in school so that you can get the heck out of htere when the time is right. You will find that education can take you many places, and in those places you will find diverstiy and acceptance.
Until then if you just need to chat drop me an e-mail any time!
2007-03-05 16:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.
Don't hate yourself, or treat yourself like you have to be straight for everyone else. BE happy for what you are, even if its ONLY for you.
I used to think of so many reasons to try and commit suicide because I wanted to belong, to be accepted for ME. I lived in a Mormon family who thought that IF I was gay, I was going to hell and they would have no part of it.
Gay or not, I don't care what they thought. If your parents kick you out for being gay, don't tell them. Just let it slide by. They will in time learn to accept it, and if they don't, don't worry about it. It only matters how you feel and think.
You can find groups online, etc. I know that they're some. You can also go to the Gay and Lesbian community around there. Lemme give you some links. Hopefully you can do this.
Be strong young one. I feel for ya! Good luck!
2007-03-05 16:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but it's never too soon to start saving money and getting job skills you will need in the future (like computers, for example).
If you have marketable skills, you will be able to support yourself, and be able to afford to move somewhere else if you need to.
Good luck, and don't give up hope. Look at the backgrounds of some other gay people who have made it. John Barrowman (Cpt. Jack Harkness on Dr. Who) hid his orientation until he was in college. Now he is married (well civil-unioned) to his partner in England.
2007-03-05 16:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Robin W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be who you are. I went though the same thing but I learned to deal with it.I just kept going through life an didn't let anyone put me down, and you should do the same.I am now happy with my partner and when you get one you will be happy too.Even though you do not think so, it is a person for everyone out there.All I can say is don't let anyone put you down for being who you are.And about the parent thing, just try to sit down with them and have a talk.
2007-03-05 16:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by DT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Just be your self. I know it hurts that people tease you. They are the bad ones. I know people disagree with gays,but i don't think it's a crime,introduce your self. Try to tell everyone you are a good person and a fun person to be around. You aren't around to hurt anyone. Try to be cheerful when you are in school. Don't let anyone tease.Just laugh it off. I hope everything works out. Maybe join some activities... :) good luck..
2007-03-05 16:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by scoopie110 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey im guessing ur around my age or close to it it sounds like. Im not totally sure i am gay but i think i am. by parents arnt as radical as urs but i still dont wanna *** out about it because i live in a very hating area. Ive been looking for someone to talk to about this for a while. u could talk to me if u like. I dont know if i can really help u, but its nice to know ur not alone u know what i mean? anyways hope i helped a little feel free to contact me. best of wishes.
Love, Me
2007-03-05 19:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It’s so wonderful being a gay person. I said that before. I’m going to say it again. I love being gay. And I love gay people. I think we’re better than other people. I really do. I think we’re smarter and more talented and more aware and I do, I do, I totally do. And I think we’re more tuned in to what’s happening, tuned into the moment, tuned into our emotions, and other people’s emotions, and we’re better friends. I really do think all of these things. And I try not to forget them.
2007-03-05 16:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The first step you need to take is to stop hating being gay!!! If you can accept your sexual orientation, everything will be so much easier for you...
2007-03-05 17:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by mandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I cannot give you specific information, if you are in need of help, you can contact the link I have attached. It has all the info you will need to get the help you need.......be brave, be strong.
http://www.glrl.org.au/index.htm
2007-03-05 16:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋