should i tell my mom about the probs im having or deal with it my self<i need advise>?

Question

okay my older sister had a party and said i could come but right when she went to sleep all her boyfriends came and they started to smoke and drink and they asked if i wanted to so i did i didn;t want to look like a dork then i got really messed up and ended up having sex with a guy thats 24 and im only 14 (turning 15 in a couple months...)but now i think im pregnant i was going to go to my sister but im scared...she always thought i was her innocent sister and i don't want her to not trust me and i dont want to tell my mom losing anyones trust is the worst thing that i can do


so i need advise can you please help meeh what should i do tell my family or deal with this s#!t my self...

Answer 1

My darling girl, please speak to your mother, she has to know. If you are pregnant she is going to find out either by you or the hard way. Everybody makes mistakes and your sister should be told too. You don't want to be trapped raising a child at your age, you have not begun to live. Tell your mother your fears and yes it will take time to build trust, you have made the first step, and that is to try to get some advice. By the way the 24 year old is a rapist. You are what they call jail bait as you are under age. Honey don't try to take this burden on yourself. Go to your mother and say Mom I have something to tell you, and I know you are not going to like it, before you start hollering please just listen to what I have to say. Make sure you are both seated, she is going to be upset honey, but look at it this way, you are now sharing your burden with the person who loves you most and gave birth to you. You can do it, it will be hard, but must be done, and you must be tested for sexually transmitted diseases as well. Good luck, God bless and put angels on your pillows.

Answer 2

First Take A Test Make Sure You Know All The Facts And Talk To Your Mom But Don't Try To Blame This All On Your Sister The 24 Should Be Put In Jail He Could Of Taken Advantage Of You

Answer 3

I am a strong believer in communication. When I was growing up, I went to my dad for advice on everything. Some things you can deal with alone, but when it comes to rape (which is what this is) and pregnency you need support from your family. I don't know if this was your first sexual partner or not but a 24 year old has no reason to be drinking and flirting with a 14 year old. Think about it, would you be interested in a 4 year old?

I would definitely talk to your parents. Let them know that you understand that you made a mistake by drinking. However, you also need to understand that as much as you put yourself in this situation, your sister did too! She should never have left you alone in that kind of situation and she needs to be seriously repremended for it.

Talk to your parents, they're more understanding than most of us think. They love you and will want you happy and safe, and that is all that they will be thinking about.

Answer 4

First off, dear, calm down. I know that how your family's feelings towards you means the world to you, but you have to realise that you STILL need to talk to your family; you still need their support. You can't go it alone. That is part of what lead to the situation that you are currently in-not reaching out and running to your sister when those guests arrived, in the first place. Whether or not you are expecting, either way, you need to reach out and tell your family. Stop holding things in. Alcohol, drugs, sex, etc. etc. are NOT viable outlets. Being able to talk to your loved ones is, and if you are in need of help, they would more than likely be the first ones to give it, especially because they have a pesonal interest in your well-being-THEY CARE ABOUT YOU! You will still be little sister/daughter regardless of any situation that arises. Does that exuse your behavior? NO! But now it is time to be open and vulnerable so that you can get the true genuine help you need. Best regards!

Answer 5

you need to go talk to your mom and your sister they will understand she may be angry at first but you have so much going on

first these older guys pressured you into drinking and doing drugs and then they used you for sex what they did was rape a child

as a mother none of this is your fault you are a child and they are adults they took total advantage of you this is not right or legal

you can not handle this on your own you need to go to your mother and have her take you to the Dr and get checked to see if your pregnant and have any std's

and then what ever your family decides to do with these grown men That did this to you is a family decision

and i do not think any of this should be blamed on your sister she though that you would be safe with her Friends and there was no way she could have known that they would do this to you

please feel free to print this and show your family if it helps break the ice and make it easyer to talk to them and you may contact me though I'm or e mail any time

Answer 6

Wait one 2d right here. you're conserving which you're having slightly one, do you fathom what meaning? You actual ought to tell your mom real away, no remember what you think of she would be able to assert, and no remember what she would be able to assert. You owe her this plenty, and extra advantageous than that, you owe the toddler extra advantageous than that. i assume you at the instant are not attentive to the main substantial wellbeing matters that must be in keep for you're you. being pregnant isn't consistently a solid subject for a girl, no longer to show a teenager. teenager mothers have alot of wellbeing matters that the wellbeing care provider ought to video exhibit. in the journey that your going to maintain the toddler, teenager mothers have alot extra hazards for infants born with wellbeing issues, some may be monitored and have a satisfied result, some in simple terms will shield the everyday of existence the toddler is with the help of have with in spite of wellbeing subject there may be. you should tell your mom immediatly, and own as much as what is going on. I dont choose to hearken to you mom crying that she ought to of helped you, yet you never gave her a raffle.

Answer 7

Take a test, find out for sure and then tell you mom. She loves you and will help you decide the best course of action. IE.getting a job,finishing school and helping you with the baby. You made a chose and now you need to be an adult and take responsibility.

Answer 8

Talk to your mom or sister right away. You need to get tested for pregnancy and STDs. By the way, a 24 year old who has sex with a 14 year old (especially one who is intoxicated) is a rapist and should be arrested.

Answer 9

Your sister was responsible for you. She should not have left you with a group of older men. You have been used. I would go to your sister and tell her. Let her help you.
You might not want to lose her trust, but I have a 14 year old and it would break my heart if I knew she was in trouble and there was no one to help her. Please go to your sister, if you can't go to your mother.
Good luck.

Answer 10

Well if I was your mum I would want to know what happened rather than you keep it fromme.
I would be dissapointed, but also I would remember what it was like to be a teenager and that I made mistakes like that too. Its just aprt of growing up.