My ex dated a girl last year and it broke my heart. I begged him to come back. He refused. And threw her in?

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my face a lot. She lied and told him she was pregnant with his child. The same time I thought I was pregnant. He told me he didn't want me to have his child. He hurt me in so many ways. We ended up getting back together. The worst that I feared came back, he and her started talking on the phone and it opend my old would and I broke up with him.
I love him, I do and I can't stop. We have been together for 6 years.
I know I should move on, but I can't get over how bad that hurt.
How bad it hurts. How can I?
I don't know if I want to try again or just move on and either way I am not making much progress. It plays over and over in my mind. Seeing her, brings all of my anger out. But not when i am with him.?? what is wrong with me, I should be mad at him and not her.
How can I get over this crap?

Answer 1

You can get over this by realizing that he does not love. He disrespects you. You need to love yourself. You can do this by realizing what real love is and then go out with other people until you meet someone who really loves you. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. GOD

Answer 2

You treat yourself as if you were a sister or a girlfriend listening to this same question, then consider how you would respond. If it were me, I would consider:

1. No matter how long you've known him or dated him, he's not treating you as if you matter. In fact, he's purposefully being hurtful because he knows how you feel about him.

2. Asking yourself what it is about him that you love. Does he treat you well? Is he honest with you? Does he actively support and encourage you? What is it that he does every day that says "I really love you and want the best for you?"

3. Why are you so willing to put yourself physically and emotionally at such risk?

There are several options for getting through this:

1. Self-discipline, which means that you take responsibility for ALLOWING him to hurt you and making the decision to end it.
2. A good therapist who can help you get to the bottom of it all so you don't repeat this in the future
3. You continue to be unhappy for a very long time, knowing that you have the power to put a stop to it. At some point, this "man" will tire of your drama and move on--- you'll be forced to get over it.

You can do this.

Answer 3

You are addicted to the drama and what you think is romantic getting back together. It gives you a rush. This is NOT love. It is a bad habit that you need to break. I understand that you feel love for him. We all love someone that we can't be with.
It is like he is fire and you keep putting your heart in the fire and you keep getting burnt. Stop going near fire, it is dangerous for your heart and well being.

You are building your own fire in your brain with rehashing these things. It is time to change your thought patterns. It can be done.
You have more control over your emotions than you realize.

Face the fact that you have and might always have feelings for him, but you can't ever be with him. This is part of you maturing.
You can choose to be stuck in this drama or choose to be with a guy who you can trust and depend on.

This guy isn't worth your trouble.

You can get over this crap if you make up your mind to do so.
Work on yourself being strong as a woman- and work on the fact that this kind of guy will just burn you.

Answer 4

You are experiencing what is known as Sexual Karma.

You probably had a few lifetimes being lovers with this guy and the physical draw is still potent. I think you need to start thinking of this as "potent" being another word for POISON.

You may really, really like ice cream but if you ate it every day for every meal it would make you very ill, turn you into someone you wouldn;t want to be and frankly, you would be bored to death with it after a while.

Some of the weirdness of sexual karma is that you "think" you want to be with this person full time but what you really want is a long, lost weekend of sex and then you can cut him lose.

This is NOT love and it never will be. Move along girl and be more like guys. Next time you see him somewhere, say "I had me some of that. It was mighty tasty and now I am looking for something better."

Answer 5

Know one thing, as long as you continue to be with him, you will never get over this. I know you are hurting, and being with him makes the pain go away, but it is only a temporary fix. His cheating and betrayal has ruined any possibility of a healthy relationship between the both of you. By you begging him he has learned to disrespect you. You need to give yourself time in order to move on. You cannot expect to make progress in such a short amount of time. If you can look beyond the pain you will then be able to see how you will never be happy if you remain with him. Try to invision your life if you did not love him? I bet you would envision a girl that is free of pain, a happier person. Keep that vision in your mind, and let it be the drive that will motivate you to move forward to a life without him. I feel you want to be happy. You have to want happiness enough to accept and indure the pain of your broken heart so as to allow you to get past it. And you will get past it, it just takes time. Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

He is not worth you even thinking about him and I know you dont want to hear this but you have to move on. One day you will look back and say what a waste of time he never even respected me Im better than that. There are so many other guys better than him and you will find him. Just think what she will have to put up with if they get togeather you dont want to be with someone you cant trust or who is sleeping around on you. It will make things worst and you will be misrable.lol

Answer 7

when we fail to see the truth in something it can and does cause us alot of unnecessary emotional pain. the man is a cheater, not worthy of your love. u have no self esteem,, if u did u would not allow him to treat u so disrespectfully. first u have to acknowledge this relationship is over with, until than u can't move forward. the pain your feeling is the best teacher u will ever find. i think we teach people how to treat us, by letting them be disloyal and disrespect us. this man has caused u so much more pain than happiness. yes u will be angry and u will hurt, its a grieving process, that we all have to go through when someone we love leaves us. it feels as if our world is coming to an end. u will make it through this, but u will need to distance yourself from this cheater, and see him for who he really is.

Answer 8

There is no way to say how you can get over that traumatic experience, but I think that you can be mad at the both of them. I also think that you should try to move on, because this man is only going to hurt you even more.

It takes time, so don't rush yourself, live day by day, and you will see that every day you will think less of him, if you put your mind up to it.

Answer 9

You have become an addict to the romantic notions you have been conditioned to believe! You have to realize that you deserve respect, but that respect is born out of the respect you have for yourself. Have enough dignity to say no to yourself every time you get the urge to fall for this loser again. You deserve better!

Answer 10

be mad at both of them. you know that you are better then those two. either way if you with him or with out him you would be hurt. so just leave him even though it breaks your heart. it just takes little steps to get over some one you really love and care for. but someday you will find someone better who wants to make you happy.