Can someone please define my custody and what they mean.
I have Primary physical care, custody and control of the minor child. We both have joint legal custody, which means that he has the right to obtain copies, of medical, school records etc. etc.
The way that I understand this is that I have the control over my son, not him, that I have the say in what goes on. Now is this right? Or does he have just as much say as I do? Any help would be sooooo helpful.
Thanks Amy
2007-03-05 07:55:14 · 7 answers · asked by amyim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How interesting that you would use the term "control over my son", but that's another issue. If your son lives with you then you have custody of your son, which means you are the custodial parent.
depending on what state you live that means you have control in the day to day decision making in your sons life; however on major issues such as school and medical care both you and your ex have a joint decision making power. In short you should consult each other on major issues (assuming that is possible).
The easiest thing for you to do is look over your copy of the parenting plan, all this information should be specified in the plan. If you don't have a copy of your parenting plan, then ask your attorney, or go the court where your paperwork was filed and get a copy.
2007-03-05 08:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by evil_paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Primary physical custody is when the child lives with you, and you have physical care. You have the right to sign for any operations, or anything life saving without him. Joint custody means he has the right to have the child so many days a month, holidays, copies for report cards, school records, etc. You have the right to decide whats in the best interest of your child. He doesnt have everyday rights to make discisions in the childs life, but when he has the child because he has joint custody he can sign at the er if the child needs to be seen by a doctor etc. By having primary custody he cant take the child and run away either.
2007-03-05 16:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joint custody is where you are supposed to work together, keep each other informed, etc.
By having primary, you hold the tie breaking vote. However, you probably still cannot move out of the area, or make other major changes without consulting him.
He also has the right to take you back to mediation or the courts if he believes that your actions are not in the best interest of the child or interfere with him having a relationship with his child.
So you cannot be a dictator, and say your way or the highway.
You may not always agree with him, but I would suggest picking your battles carefully. It's best to work together when parenting when possible.
2007-03-05 16:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm interesting. From my experience, and I have been through this twice. I am the custodial parent, to me that means he/she live with me and I am responsible for all of their daily life stuff. School, Dr, etc..... we have joint custody and that means he is free to see him/ her anytime he wishes. as long as it is worked out. He has a right to check them out of school and bring them to the Dr and such. and you actually share the responsibility of raising him even though he lives with you. does that make sense? I hope that helps.
2007-03-05 16:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Orleanslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the say so on the day to day activities of the child. the father will need to take you to court to make any changes if you should refuse to do anything he asks. he has access to school records, medical records, and such forth.
2007-03-05 16:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone is in contro l of you and you can't do anything about it you have to0 listen to them because there in control of you until your eighteen
2007-03-05 16:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by kitty b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on your state call your atty. for clarification
2007-03-05 16:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋