is it good to be selfish?

Question

i do not consider me being selfish.in 90% of all cases.but i think i might be needing a dose of selfishness.I mean. I can't always give and never receive.

but in which case is it ok to be selfish.give me am example please please

(I am trying to find inner peace but i think i might be to peaceful)

Answer 1

I think it is good for you and others to be a little selfish. If you always try to put everyone else first you will just burn out and become resentful. Take an evening off and go out with your friends, don't clean the house on Tuesdays, spend extra money for a manicure--whatever it is that makes you feel good. By taking a little time/energy/money for yourself you will feel better and then be a better person to those around you as well.

Answer 2

Sometimes I think there's a higher power out there making it harder for givers in some ways and harder for takers in another. But since alot of people who are mean are usually takers then you're probably wondering if you're a mean guy. You're doing great man because you're asking the question. Ok, an example from real life is that I just gave a guy four dollars and a lottery ticket because he asked for two dollars to get a burrito, and then I'm there waiting for the bus and after 20 minutes he was still in front of a store and never got a burrito. I pondered whether he intends to use it for drugs, then I thought that I really shouldn't ponder it because I gave him money in the first place, I guess I just have to try to find someone who isn't on druggs more and give charioty to him? This is soo hard for me, so it's good thing i'm in philosophy class (maybe i'll figure it out from that?)

Answer 3

I always find if you give some people an inch they take a mile so sometime it is ok to be selfish.

Trying to find inner peace is one of the hardest things you could do and trying to attempt it should be commended.

I suppose it all comes down to finding the balance between looking out for others and looking out for yourself. BUt there is nothing wrong with being selfish as long as you keep it up while still being unselfish aswell.

Answer 4

It is ok to be selfish if you are a woman and want the man to be on top because you have better orgasms.

I was an only child, so grew up having everything I wanted, not having to share...this has turned me into a selfish adult. I'm with a man who strives to give me everything, so that also doesn't help with my altruistic missions (I do have them every now and then!). I don't think I'm nasty and selfish, but I just tend to think of myself without thinking, does that make sense?! I have two children though, and I am in no way selfish with them, I give them everything, and I'd die for them....maybe I'm doing whatever it is that makes children grow up into selfish adults....who knows! But don't beat yourself up over it, being selfish is ok sometimes!

Answer 5

We are all selfish - it's the inherent trait of survival built into all species. There is no contest or balance between being selfish versus being unselfish - instead the trick is to analyze what pleases you and makes you happy.

If your "self-pleasing" activity consists largely of taking from others, engaging in gossip or hurtful behavior, and completely ignoring the suffering and needs of others, then yes, you might have to reconsider being "too selfish" because your self indulgences are unproductive.

But if you get pleasure and fulfill yourself through service to others as well as taking care of your own needs, then you shouldn't feel guilty about being a little selfish in eating the last cookie.

Mother Theresa and Adolph Hitler were both selfish - both acted to please their own combination of id, ego, and superego. It's just good for the world that more people seem to indulge their selfishness somewhere in the middle, but a lot closer to Theresa than Hitler. ;-)

Answer 6

Todays whole world is selfish - be selfish - everyone else is to some extent

I have been far from selfish for 28 years and still a door mat ! It's in your nature not to be selfish so be so very hard to change but look after no.1 - YOU

Answer 7

There was this movie that I saw in high school economics ( I can't remember which), that said greed is good. Sometimes personal satisfaction also helps society at large. Take Christopher Reeves for example, he promoted Stem Cell research to help those who were in his condition if he had otherwise not been in, he probably wouldn't have had as much of a stake in it as he did, but his contributions helped those who followed with the same kinds of problems.

Answer 8

Have you heard of The Selfish Gene. The most basic need of any human being is a selfish one. I need to take another breath. That in itself is selfish. We feel the need to protect ourselves, to keep ourselves alive and by doing so pass on our genes to the next generation or if unable to do so (in my case) or already have done so, our self-preservation means that we can help to raise the next generation ... It's Desmond Morris 101.

Answer 9

As far as I know I am selfish about 1 thing...my happiness. If I don't like something, I won't do it, If someone hurts me, I stay away from them. That is the one thing I will not compromise, my life is about me and my happiness. It's hard sometimes, because in the process you may hurt other people, but you gotta do what you gotta do for YOURSELF, and if that is selfish, screw every one else.

Answer 10

I think it is okay to be a little selfish... like treating yourself to a bar of chocolate during a diet!

I like to think I am selfless but I can be selfish sometimes without realising. We all are just human and we get to learn from our mistakes if we know what they are.