i m sad.. he wants in the morning i night but he picks fight with me everyday. i m good wife. i m doing everything for him.i m loving caring everything..
2007-03-05 07:45:28 · 15 answers · asked by carrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you say you do everything for him, is that off his list of things he wants done, or your list of things you think he should want and value.
Frankly, you could be working very hard, but your efforts don't hit the mark because they are not what he wants.
You don't say what you do, so I'll put up some hypothetical scenarios.
Perhaps you keep a spotless, immaculate home. You think you are doing everything. If that is not important to him, then your efforts are not going to earn "credit."
If he has a good emotional vocabulary, he can tell you how he feels. From your description, it sounds like he nags. So there is something he wants that he is not getting.
My guess, and it's only a guess, is that you are doing the wrong things and resent not getting credit for them. He sees you doing the wrong things and resents that you do all this stuff that you want to do, but don't do the things that he wants.
I.E you are cleaning, when he could care less and he wants you to get your freak on.
It's possible, please think about it.
2007-03-05 07:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should of known about this before you got married.
It doesn't sound like he is committed as a husband should be.
Get some counseling. If he can't uphold his marriage vow, to love, honor and be faithful to, then you need to consider what to do next. I believe marriage is a life time commitment, but if one partner breaks those promises then if just might be time for you to move on. And never ever choose the same kind of guy again. You are worth more.
2007-03-05 16:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing everything for him, he is taking advantage of you. Stop letting him have sex with you, and when he asks why, tell him the truth, that you dont like the way he treats you and fights with you. Sometimes jerks like him need a wake up call and the only way to do that is to show them they cant always have it their way. Good Luck.
2007-03-05 15:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that for women and getting intimate it starts way before the bedroom. If he is picking fights with you it must make it hard for you to feel loving towards him.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 15:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound to me like he is not happy and wants something or someone else, you need to sit down and have a talk with him.
2007-03-05 16:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you giving it to him or not? Men tend to get kinda crappy if they're not getting laid from their wives.
If you ARE giving it to him, and he's still fighting with you, I would STOP giving it to him. Obviously, that's not what the problem is.
2007-03-05 15:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stand up for yourself and tell he that the fighting does not help me get in the mood. and if he wont sex the he need to help you get in the mood. and tell him it can take hour of nice kind words and loving kiss to get you there.
2007-03-05 15:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think you are doing everything, that just means you are blind to the things you are not doing.
I'm not saying he is right, but you aren't being honest.
2007-03-05 15:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to think about becoming a good ex wife. If he has no more respect for you than that, he's gotta go
Hope this helps
2007-03-05 15:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by walker9842 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
He doesn't have E D for sure...he might be on Overdrive, but, don't worry, his gas tank will go "low on gas" soon
2007-03-05 15:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋