your man is against any form of birth control (besides the pull-out method) because of a religion issue? I asked him what he thought about it a few months ago and he said it was against his religion, which is fine with me. Well guess what? I'm 12 weeks preggo now but were totally fine with it but after the baby, I don't want to get pregnant for at least 2 or 3 more years. I've thought about getting on birth control and not telling him. I'm not good at all about hiding things (not that I should be) and I have a feeling it will eat me up to hide this from him. Would you hide this from your man or do any of you do this now?
2007-03-05 07:44:44 · 14 answers · asked by DGBrandy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He isn't just bullshi***** me about it being against his religion because I did look into it!
2007-03-05 07:52:02 · update #1
Natural family planning. If you do it right, it's very effective.
www.tcoyf.com is a good source of information.
2007-03-05 08:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by ihatesunsets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him that not using birth control was against my rights as a human being. I guess since you aren't also this religion, then you could go on birth control, could you not? Also, in what religion that birth control is not permitted is the pull out method allowed?
2007-03-05 15:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You call him "your man" not your husband, so I'm assuming y'all aren't married. I know of no religion that prohibits birth control use yet allows premarital sex. Double standards much? He can't pick and choose the rules he wishes to follow. Since you'll be the one having the children and your body will suffer if you have back to back to back pregnancies, I'd say you have a say in things. What about YOUR religion? Do you follow the same religion or belief system? You are entitled to your own thoughts too. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-05 16:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only religion that i can think of that is against birth control is Catholicism. are you two married? just thought i would ask because catholics are not supposed to have sex before marriage. basically there is no way that someone in this day and age can live by all the rules that the church sets out. does he plan on vaccinating your child? that's against the rules also. tell him it's your life and relationship also. i wouldn't feel bad about secretly using birth control. it's his religion, not yours.
2007-03-05 15:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that it's NOT against your religion to practice birth control and that it's not fair for you to respect him and his religion and for him to not consider and respect yours. If you want birth control that's discrete try and IUD. They can last for 5 years and can be put in and removed in a matter of minutes!!! He will never know it's there and you wouldn't have any pills to hide!!! But you are the one who has to carry, deliver and tend to the baby!!!! So talk to him about maybe going to the doctor with you and considering something to prevent you from constantly being pregnant...and if he says no then tell him that ya'll will simply practice ABSTINENCE!!!!
2007-03-05 15:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you've got a few months to worry free time now!!!
Personally, I would go on the Pill and tell him. If he is religious and not you, it surely doesn't apply to you? Did you know this before you got involved? Some things hsould have been made clear to you from the start.
I'm a bit sensitive about this today - I saw a young mother with three children under 4. She really battled. Don't do it!
2007-03-05 15:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he's really against it you don't need birth control ask your ob about how to figure out your ovulation day don't have sex for three days before or after ovulation. it worked for me for 2 years
2007-03-05 16:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by babyguurl_492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can also try having sex on days your not ovulating,,, i happend to be on the pill when i got pregnant so i would still be carefull, nothing is 100% but do be careful i think you will be ok if you can talk to your doc and find out when you ovulate and not have sex on those days and if he uses the withdrawl method.. ... just talk to your doctor about options im sure they might have some other ideas to prevent pregnancy... how about a spermicide.. would that work for you?
2007-03-05 15:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really should be on the same page about a matter this important. It would be best to discuss this further with him now. I mean, you really can't trust the pull-out method. That's like playing Russian Roulette!
2007-03-05 15:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by worldwise1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its your body! do want you want with it. don't let a man control you like that, are you crazy!? you'll be the one taking care of those kids the majority of the time. or hire a nanny and pop them out like pop corn.
2007-03-05 15:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by Cornell is Hot! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋