I have a boyfriend but think I'm falling for someones else??!?
I am so confused, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. , but I met someone else lately through work (we dont work in the same office, but i do see him and speak with him often because of the work we do) ,we just clicked, this wasnt meant to happen, but I feel like I'm falling in love with him - I can't stop thinking about him. When I'm not talking to him, i want to be. I dont know what it is. He just does something fo rme that my boyfiend doesnt. I never realy had the thrill and butterflies with my boyfriend now, but I do care for him. My boyfriend knows about the other guy, but doesn't know how I feel about him.
I am afraid that I wont take a risk because i am just to afraid of hurting my boy even though things havent been the same lately. I am also afraind of not going for something that I feel.
2007-03-05 07:43:24 · 16 answers · asked by Hey girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I thought about taking a break from my boyfriend, but when when I suggested it he was so upset. I couldnt bear to do that to him. Please help! I dont know what to do. I am so afraid of hurting my boyfriend, but also afraid of not knowing. I still want him in my life, I am just not sure what to do at this point. He is talking about marriage, but I dont know if I want that anymore. I am in my mid 20's, so I am afraid if I lose my boyfriend and it doesnt work out with the other guy, i might of lost out. Selfish, i know, but its human. I dont know..HELP!!
2007-03-05 07:45:14 · update #1
No one can tell you what to do here but you, but you need to make up your mind and act. If you want my opinion, I think you might simply be interested in the other person for the newness, however. If that is the case, then if you ended up with them you would still be in the same situation you are now, just with a different person after a while. If the previous statement is true, and if your boyfriend is good to you, then you should stay with him and get over your tendencies to do things that would hurt him. If it's something else, then maybe the other guy is the right one for you. Either way, you need to make up your mind and not drag anyone along.
~Kyle
2007-03-05 07:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Few years late here, however I am going to add to these answers. If you tell him you want a break from him, to see someone else, that will make him feel like he is your "plan b". No one, man or woman, should settle for "plan b". So, be honest with yourself. Is it a situation where you have been with said Bf for awhile and the newness wore off? So, you meet a guy, and you start getting attracted? What if you dump your current Bf, get with this guy and realize he isn't for you? And, if the current bf is a good guy to you and treats you right, going this route may make him not want to give you another chance should it not work out with New Guy. Personally, I would not blame him one bit if that happened. Hopefully, you were honest with him when this happened and did not hide anything from him. Big trust thing there. Very big trust issue.
2015-01-12 12:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 03:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attraction isn't a choice as you have found out...
tell the other bf asap that it is not working out and you "need your space" ..if he doesnt get it, then tell him point blank I want to break up and nothing else...then stay away and dont let him do all the crazy stuff guys do like tell you he is going to kill himself and kill you and all that...be strong and say it's over but maybe we can be friends...(not) or maybe if he's mature and civil about it.. he must stay away from you ..if he doesnt then more time will be needed on your part ..patience, not too many words; none will be best(no discussing things with the bf) understand?
DO NOT tell him you are seeing someone else...
give it 3 months before you "see" the other guy out in public if it comes to that..
keep your clothes on...that is the real test for/of a man
good luck
2007-03-12 23:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the saying "Never mix business with pleasure"? Nothing good ever comes from it. You say you want your boyfriend in your life? He's already there. Don't ruin a good thing because you have a crush on a co worker. Is it really worth ruining the relationship you have? Temptation will always be there throughout your life, it's up to you to have the willpower to leave well enough alone. Why ruin a good thing for a fling.
2007-03-05 07:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does this guy feel the same way that you feel, or is it one sided, after a year and a half you only care about your boyfriend but it seems like you are falling in love with this other guy, re-evaluate you relationship, the pro's and con's and the positive and negative traits of your boyfriend, if you feel like this other person has more of what you are looking for and not just based on how you feel then eventually you are going to have to make a decision, just because someone cares about you doesn't necessarily mean you have to be with them, you should be happy with your choice of a mate as well as the relationship, not unhappy or only staying with him until someone better comes along....
2007-03-09 11:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is human to be selfish in love but love matches based on selfishness don't last as long. So break up with your boyfriend based on non-selfish feelings; admit that as long as you can be tempted so strongly by another guy, your boyfriend is probably not the person you should be marrying. Then start dating a lot. If it ever clicks with this other 'someone else', fine, but don't count on it. Don't make him the reason you broke up with your boyfriend.
2007-03-10 18:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing, you have to figure out who you are most in love with your boyfriend or the office guy, just because your boyfriend is talking about marriage does not mean you have to rush into, You know you can't have two guy so once you figure out who you want to be with then you can figure out what you want with the man you are interested in, it will be hard decision to make but you are the only one that can make it, If don't want to be with your boyfriend then tell him eventhough he will be crushed but will have to move on, If you don't want to be with the office guy let it go and continue your relationship with you boyfriend. You know what is right when you feel it is, You are thinking too much into this and I think you need to be upfront with your boyfriend about your feelings with this guy whether you want to or not. If he finds out then what will you do, you will have to explain yourself. Relationships are serious and are not meant to be toyed with. There are real emotions evolved and you have to be willing to deal with those emotions eventhough someone will be hurt whether your boyfriend or the office guy you are so in love with.
2007-03-05 07:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. A bird in the hand story, I guess. But who is to say that this current relationship is actually the end all be all anyway. I wouldn't mistake butterflies for stability though. My advice doesn't seem to be too good, I'm afraid. Just don't cheat! Infidelity is the WORST hangover.
2007-03-05 07:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋